"I Don't Think You Can Out-Evil Me" w/ Jes TomDec 19, 2023 · 1 hr 22 minHi Shame Spiralers! I'm briefly emerging from our mid-season hiatus just to drop this very special bonus episode with comic, writer & actor Jes Tom! (Our Flag Means Death, Less Lonely.) Jes is one of my favorite comedians and you can and SHOULD drop everything you're doing and go see their one-person comedy show Less Lonely at the Greenwich House Theater in NYC, from now through January 6! This hilarious, poignant show is written & performed by Jes, presented by Elliot Page, a...PlayPlay "I Don't Think You Can Out-Evil Me" w/ Jes Tom
"Traumatized & Raw-dogging Life" w/ Alegra KastensNov 7, 2023 · 1 hr 28 minThis week I spiraled out with psychotherapist, OCD specialist, writer & content creator Alegra Kastens! We talked OCD origin stories and the thoughts that broke our brains, the obsessive struggle to discern if you don't like someone because you're not into them or because there's something wrong with you, fear of being cancelled and social media trolls, the idea of "harm," and what it really means to harm someone, obsessing about finding a partner and worrying about your eggs dying, ...PlayPlay "Traumatized & Raw-dogging Life" w/ Alegra Kastens
"Accidentally Shaming Monica Lewinsky" w/ Nicole J. GeorgesOct 31, 2023 · 1 hr 6 minThis week I spiraled out with writer, illustrator, podcaster & professor Nicole J. Georges! (Calling Dr. Laura) We talked shame and recovery from harmful family dynamics, making amends to yourself & others, the important of zines and yahoogroups for isolated young 90's queers, shoplifting, vegan betrayals, gossiping, gaslighting, writing memoir when you know your family won't be happy about it, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Nicole shared several incredible shame stories, including a ...PlayPlay "Accidentally Shaming Monica Lewinsky" w/ Nicole J. Georges
"I'm Definitely Not A Beach Read" w/ LaToya JordanOct 24, 2023 · 52 minThis week I spiraled out with writer, poet and lovely person LaToya Jordan! We dug deep into her recently published novella, To The Woman In The Pink Hat, and some of the issues it explores: medical racism, infertility, white feminism, the Women's March, and uterine transplants (?!?,) and also spiraled about twenty-something alcohol-induced regrets, the struggle to "make the first move" in attempting friendship with adults and fellow parents, and how sometimes the right amount of shame just a...PlayPlay "I'm Definitely Not A Beach Read" w/ LaToya Jordan
"Inappropriate In Front Of Steve Harvey & America" w/ Ashley LyleOct 17, 2023 · 1 hr 9 minThis week I spiraled out with brilliant television writer, showrunner and co-creator of YELLOWJACKETS (!!!!!!) Ashley Lyle! We talked nicotine and being 90s teens, the moment you realize you can hurt your mom's feelings, caring too much about what people think of you at the expense of the people who truly care, the vicious procrastination cycle and ADHD, anxiety & shame intertwined, unhinged goth childhood behavior, feeling replete with humiliation on CELEBRITY FAMILY FUED, a...PlayPlay "Inappropriate In Front Of Steve Harvey & America" w/ Ashley Lyle
"Daddy Needs To Gamble" w/ Ali LiebegottOct 10, 2023 · 1 hr 1 minThis week I spiraled out with hilarious and deeply relatable novelist, television writer & painter Ali Liebegott! We talked regret, people pleasing and the shame of saying no, making mistakes and accepting your own and others' flaws , accidentally farting on a stranger in a grocery store, taking your students to a casino, wishing your childhood fish was more like a dog and SO MUCH MORE. Ali's published a handful of incredible award-winning books, including ...PlayPlay "Daddy Needs To Gamble" w/ Ali Liebegott
"I Can Talk About C*m & Have A PhD" w/ Amy SilverbergOct 3, 2023 · 56 minThis week I spiraled out with the brilliant & SUPER funny stand up comic & writer Amy Silverberg! (Comedy Central, The Paris Review) We talked Jewish parents, boundaries, talking about your students and boyfriends in your stand up, fake vs real vulnerability, codependency and hurting people more in trying NOT to hurt them, how being teased can feel like love, being a recovered ghoster, and SO MUCH MORE. Amy also shared several juicy shame stories AND we went deep into the world ...PlayPlay "I Can Talk About C*m & Have A PhD" w/ Amy Silverberg
"Am I Breaking The Contract Of This Bagel Place?" w/ Django GoldSep 26, 2023 · 53 minThis week I spiraled out with the hilarious and thoughtful writer & stand up comedian Django Gold! (The Late Show With Stephen Colbert) We talked social awkwardness, persecution complexes, the weirdness of being an introverted comedian, accepting your flaws, parading around your job with a beard full of ice cream, torturing yourself with anxiety, the benefits of getting older, spectacularly bombing a stand up set and ON YOUR BIRTHDAY, unintentionally breaking the social contra...PlayPlay "Am I Breaking The Contract Of This Bagel Place?" w/ Django Gold
"Okay, I'm A Monster" w/ Allison RaskinSep 19, 2023 · 1 hr 22 minThis week I spiraled out with the delightful & brilliant writer, podcaster, and mental health advocate Allison Raskin! (Overthinking About You, Just Between Us) We talked the nuance around mental health diagnoses, all about OCD, insecurities around friendship, self-compassion as the antithesis of shame, the liberating potential of knowing your own schemas, and even meta-processed a few moments INVOLVING EACH OTHER that made us both spiral, if you can believe. If you're not alrea...PlayPlay "Okay, I'm A Monster" w/ Allison Raskin
"That Good Will Hunting Moment" w/ River ButcherSep 12, 2023 · 1 hr 19 minThis week I spiraled out with super funny & absurdly talented comedian, writer, actor & podcaster River Butcher! (The Knew Guys, League Of Their Own.) We talked fear of people leaving if you dare to share your feelings, the difficulty of actually implementing your coping skills when things are POPPING OFF, giving a gift to your inner child and carrying all previous versions of you inside yourself, letting go of trying to be a "better person," somatic therapies, striking out in basebal...PlayPlay "That Good Will Hunting Moment" w/ River Butcher
"Congratulations On Your Perfect Parents" w/ Lane MooreSep 5, 2023 · 58 minThis week I spiraled out with wonderfully deep, refreshingly honest and truly hilarious writer, actor, comedian, musician AND podcaster Lane Moore! (Tinder Live, You Will Find Your People) We talked shame and relational trauma, the damage done by unrealistic and grossly prescriptive self-help books, dealing with the incessant self-critical DJ playing the worst songs over and over in your head, making art from pain, the struggle to believe there's nothing wrong with you, the diffic...PlayPlay "Congratulations On Your Perfect Parents" w/ Lane Moore
"The Shame Of Breaking Someone's Heart" w/ Carly MontagAug 29, 2023 · 1 hr 13 minThis week I spiraled out with hilarious & deeply relatable stand up comic, podcaster (and fellow neurotic Jew) Carly Montag! We talked the pervasive fear of making others' feel bad, coming out as queer via an improv class revelation, Jewish guilt and hypervigilance, the shame of feeling stupid, internalized homophobia and the pressure to marry a nice Jewish boy, the rocky learning curve of your first relationships and the regrets that follow and SO MUCH MORE. Carly performs...PlayPlay "The Shame Of Breaking Someone's Heart" w/ Carly Montag
"Your Dad Dies And You Have Gay Sex" w/ Joel Kim BoosterAug 22, 2023 · 1 hr 9 minThis week I spiraled out with incredibly talented comic, writer and actor Joel Kim Booster! (Fire Island, The Other Two, Shrill) We talked the impact of growing up extremely religious and queer, fear of going to hell and terrifying fantasies of what hell would be like, caring way too much of what others' think about you, being young and extra thirsty, people pleasing tendencies (except for with the TSA,) the journey of going from shameful to shameless, a dead Dad orgy, masochisti...PlayPlay "Your Dad Dies And You Have Gay Sex" w/ Joel Kim Booster
"If It's Hysterical, It's Historical" w/ Tara SchusterAug 15, 2023 · 59 minThis week I spiraled out with the disarmingly honest, lovely, hilarious & brilliant writer Tara Schuster! (Glow In The F*cking Dark, Comedy Central) Talking shame with Tara was hilarious, delightful, and honestly inspiring AF. We talked shame and trauma, the relief and empowerment that comes from knowing when the past is crash landing into the present, drunk dialing your therapist, self-compassion & forgiveness, the good side of "selfishness," reparenting yourself, existen...PlayPlay "If It's Hysterical, It's Historical" w/ Tara Schuster
"What Kind Of Psychopath Has Half A Beer?!" w/ Emma WillmannAug 8, 2023 · 1 hr 19 minThis week I spiraled out with incredibly hilarious, honest and charming comedian, writer & actor Emma Willmann! (Colbert, Comedy Central, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend) Emma and I talked ADHD, addiction and recovery, accidentally learning things from TikTok, getting in a fight with Chelsea Handler, ungodly shameful moments with exes and discerning when apologizing is for you and not them, and unpacked maybe my MOST BRUTAL hypothetical shame game scenarios yet ( sorry Emma!) Follo...PlayPlay "What Kind Of Psychopath Has Half A Beer?!" w/ Emma Willmann
"I Would Live, B*tch" w/ Nori ReedAug 1, 2023 · 1 hr 2 minThis week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Nori Reed! (Netflix is a Joke, HBO Max, Comedy Central) Nori's stand up is iconic, hilarious and brilliant, and she was featured in New York Magazine as one of Vulture's "Comedians You Should Know And Will Know In 2021." She also recently wrote for seasons five & six of Disney's Raven's Home, creating Disney's first ever live-action trans character, which led to a GLAAD award nomination! Nori and I talked class and f...PlayPlay "I Would Live, B*tch" w/ Nori Reed
"Oh God, My Clients Might Listen To This" w/ Jess SprengleJul 25, 2023 · 1 hr 9 minThis week I spiraled out with queer, neurodivergent and gender expansive psychotherapist Jess Sprengle! (@TheCrankyTherapist on IG) Jess is an Eating Disorder Specialist and Educator, and especially passionate about engaging with the intersection of the LGBTQIA+ experience, neurodivergence, and eating disorder recovery. We talked shame as an adaptive response, the fear of being a bad therapist, explored brutal therapy-themed shame scenarios and the strange and specific experience of bei...PlayPlay "Oh God, My Clients Might Listen To This" w/ Jess Sprengle
"Embarrassing Myself In Front Of Jon Hamm" w/ Mara WilsonJul 18, 2023 · 1 hr 23 minThis week I spiraled out with writer & actor Mara Wilson! (Good Girls Don't, Matilda, Mrs. Doubtfire) We talked growing up in Hollywood, being a chronic oversharer, the prison of being a "good girl," the drama of young adult relationships, anxiety & OCD, My So-Called Life, and so much more! Plus, Mara shares a multi-layered shame upon shame upon SHAME story about embarrassing herself in front of multiple celebrities....and then sharing the story with a friend and fee...PlayPlay "Embarrassing Myself In Front Of Jon Hamm" w/ Mara Wilson
"Get Me Out Of This Meat Suit!" w/ Marisa CraneJul 11, 2023 · 1 hr 28 minThis week I spiraled out with queer author and hilarious, deeply relatable person Marisa Crane! (I Keep My Exoskeletons To Myself) We talked internalized homophobia, being menaces in our twenties, self-sabotage, parenting shame, botox and the horror of lying to Drew Barrymore, why it's so damn hard to give yourself the grace you freely give everyone else, the quiet shame of being a jock in the literary world, Rugby as an addictive self-punishment tool, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Marisa s...PlayPlay "Get Me Out Of This Meat Suit!" w/ Marisa Crane
"Give Me All The Hard Things" w/ Xander BogerJul 4, 2023 · 1 hr 18 minThis week I spiraled out with physical therapist & cast member of instant queer reality tv classic The Ultimatum: Queer Love Xander Boger! This one is a special treat for all you fellow Queer Love Ultimatum fans, because we dove deep into shame around deciding to be on the show, being on the show, and the emotionally complicated aftermath. And we don't just discuss the show- we also went hard on queer relationships and codependency, chasing people who are giving you every signal that they...PlayPlay "Give Me All The Hard Things" w/ Xander Boger
"It's Hard To Be A Person, Man" w/ Busy PhilippsJun 27, 2023 · 1 hr 14 minThis week I spiraled out with actor, writer and reproductive justice advocate Busy Philipps! (Girls5eva, Cougar Town, Busy Phillips Is Doing Her Best, This Will Only Hurt A Little) We talked fear of being a bad person, processed some internet drama, unpacked our experiences with experiental hippy therapies, pondered over how good it feels to smash things and the difficulty of directly asking for what you need, got real about our shameful struggle to stop saying "YOU GUYS," and so ...PlayPlay "It's Hard To Be A Person, Man" w/ Busy Philipps
"Compulsively Pressing The Relief Button" w/ Gianmarco SoresiJun 20, 2023 · 1 hr 22 minThis week I spiraled out with stand up comic, actor and writer Gianmarco Soresi! (Comedy Central, JFL, The Late Late Show With James Corden) We talked being a child of divorce, contempt for institutions but desire for community, fear of being seen as a certain kind of man, zoom vs in-person therapy, existential crises, being a yeller from a yelling family, and so much more. Plus, Gianmarco shares a shame story about being asked by his Mom for his assistance in a wine-cellar re...PlayPlay "Compulsively Pressing The Relief Button" w/ Gianmarco Soresi
"Loud Jewish Women Who Change The F*cking World" w/ Vanessa ZoltanJun 13, 2023 · 1 hr 5 minThis week I spiraled out with author, podcaster and atheist/Jewish/humanist chaplain extraordinaire Vanessa Zoltan! (Hot & Bothered, Praying With Jane Eyre) We talked internalized anti-semitism and loud, powerful Jewish women, wanting to be so good that no one can talk sh*t about you to their therapist, shame and love for the romance genre, treating secular things as sacred, and SO MUCH MORE! Plus, Vanessa tells a shame story about being stalked in college, and navigati...PlayPlay "Loud Jewish Women Who Change The F*cking World" w/ Vanessa Zoltan
"Chronically Mature For My Age" w/ Yamini NambimadomJun 6, 2023 · 1 hr 11 minThis week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian, writer, actress & podcaster Yamini Nambimadom! (Pillow Fight Podcast, Chicago 10's) We talked about everyone thinking you're fine even when you're not, the struggle to ask for help, people pleasing, being a "difficult" child, immigrant parent expectations and feeling pressure to be the best, mean internet comments, dating, shame embodied as a horrible Beetle named Billy, and so much more! Plus, Yami...PlayPlay "Chronically Mature For My Age" w/ Yamini Nambimadom
"A Perfect Storm Of Terrible Wonderful" w/ Maggie SmithMay 30, 2023 · 1 hr 15 minThis week I spiraled out with brilliant poet, writer, editor and teacher Maggie Smith! (Good Bones, You Could Make This Place Beautiful.) We covered SO much juicy ground in this episode, diving deep into Midwestern humility and shame around success, what you owe or don't owe people as an artist, being an introverted kid with an extroverted mom, imposter syndrome, apologizing for your accomplishments, the idea of a "failed marriage," feeling shame about feeling shame, parenting fea...PlayPlay "A Perfect Storm Of Terrible Wonderful" w/ Maggie Smith
"I'm A Real Legally Blond Truther" w/ Ilana PeñaMay 23, 2023 · 1 hr 10 minThis week I spiraled out with screenwriter, showrunner & director Ilana Peña! (Diary Of A Future President, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend) We talked how earnestly loving things can make you an easy target, the double punch of when shame and anxiety spirals intertwine, annoying film and theater school bros, feeling haunted by the fear of being a horrible person, being too anxious to do drugs, and so much more. Plus, Ilana shares a hilarious and vulnerable shame story about how at the precise...PlayPlay "I'm A Real Legally Blond Truther" w/ Ilana Peña
"And This Is Why You Can't Trust Foxes" w/ Aparna NancherlaMay 16, 2023 · 1 hr 20 minThis week I spiraled out with brilliant and hilarious stand up comic, writer & actress Aparna Nancherla! (The Standups, Crashing, Bojack Horsemen, Colbert) We talked the relentless suspicion that you're intrinsically wrong and how anxiety finds a million little ways to confirm that, spiraling over confrontation and relationships, flip-flopping between anxiety and depression, the torturous tension in both craving and fearing vulnerability, shame embodied as a bottomless pit, an...PlayPlay "And This Is Why You Can't Trust Foxes" w/ Aparna Nancherla
"Settle Down, Sweet Yeti" w/ Lachrista GrecoMay 9, 2023 · 1 hr 5 minThis week I spiraled out with author, speaker, curator & librarian Lachrista Greco! (@theguerrillafeminist, Olive Grrrls: Italian North American Women & The Search For Identity) Lachrista has published several books with another coming soon, is doing incredible work around preventing and coping with digital violence, and is all-around brilliant, passionate, hilarious and so relatable. We talked growing up with learning disabilities and the crushing ableism in the Am...PlayPlay "Settle Down, Sweet Yeti" w/ Lachrista Greco
"People Are Baking Bread & I'm Making Martinis" w/ Abbi CrutchfieldMay 2, 2023 · 1 hr 9 minThis week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian & actress Abbi Crutchfield! (Up Early Tonight, The Late Show With Stephen Colbert, The Kid Is In School Podcast) We talked Mom shame, losing your cool, self-blame and that relentless internal critical voice, talking to kids about difficult topics, pandemic feelings, when your coping skills are also a defense, and soooo much more! Plus, Abbi shares a shame story about a tiny jar of sprinkles that led to a not-awesome p...PlayPlay "People Are Baking Bread & I'm Making Martinis" w/ Abbi Crutchfield
"Don't Make Kids Read Hamlet" w/ Jay JurdenApr 25, 2023 · 1 hr 30 minThis week I spiraled out with brilliant comedian, writer and actor Jay Jurden! (The Problem With John Stewart, The Late Show, The Tonight Show, High Maintenance) We talked being a tortured queer youth and shameful early queer relationships, biphobia, obsessing over what others' think of you, the anatomy of a shame spiral, the plague of coolness being equated with not trying, fear of abandonment and vulnerability, friend breakups, and so much more! Including the hidden danger of exposing...PlayPlay "Don't Make Kids Read Hamlet" w/ Jay Jurden
"You're Not Gonna Call Me Dirty Because You Feel Dirty" w/ Robby HoffmanApr 18, 2023 · 1 hr 28 minThis week I spiraled out with ridiculously funny & brilliant standup comic and Emmy-winning television writer Robby Hoffman! (Workin' Moms, The Chris Gethard Show, Odd Squad, Just For Laughs) We talked class shame, being the poorest and most religious Jewish kid in school, the way people disown and project shame on others so they don't have to deal with their own, queer love, dating and drama, being excellent in crisis and bad at the day to day, the shame-diminishing imp...PlayPlay "You're Not Gonna Call Me Dirty Because You Feel Dirty" w/ Robby Hoffman
"The Piece Of Sh*t At The Center Of The Universe" w/ Isabel HagenApr 11, 2023 · 1 hr 17 minThis week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian & Julliard-trained violist Isabel Hagen! (The Tonight Show, Just For Laughs.) We talked obsessing over what people think of you, the shame spiraling that performing comedy evokes and how Isabel deals with BOMBING, addiction/ recovery, why being vulnerable feels both so good and oh so bad, what it would be like to be a person who isn't plagued by constant shame spiraling, and so much more! Plus. Isabel shares a sha...PlayPlay "The Piece Of Sh*t At The Center Of The Universe" w/ Isabel Hagen
"I Shouldn't Normalize Being A Selfish A**hole" w/ Clara OlshanksyApr 4, 2023 · 1 hr 4 minThis week I spiraled out with standup comedian & writer Clara Olshansky! (Flamethrowers, My First Joke.) We talked career shame, dating shame, shame embodied as the snake from the Garden of Eden, the horrible things you tell yourself when you've descended into a spiral, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Clara tells a heartbreaking and very relatable shame story about a moment in a teen improv class that haunts them to this day- which inspired me to share a similar adolescent shame story...PlayPlay "I Shouldn't Normalize Being A Selfish A**hole" w/ Clara Olshanksy
"The L Word Made Me Gay" w/ Jess SalomonMar 28, 2023 · 1 hr 17 minThis week I spiraled out with super funny stand up comedian and former UN war crimes lawyer Jess Salomon! ( The Tonight Show, JFL, The El-Salomons) We talked late-in-life ADHD diagnoses, the nightmare of being told you have bad breath, The L Word as a catalyst for Jess' first lesbian experience, Judaism and Zionism, Manatees as the embodiment of shame and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Jess tells an incredibly embarrassing shame story about accidentally mocking someone to their face and having to ...PlayPlay "The L Word Made Me Gay" w/ Jess Salomon
"Got My P**** Ate In The Orchards" w/Marcella ArguelloMar 21, 2023 · 1 hr 14 minThis week I spiraled out with standup comedian, writer & actress Marcella Arguello!!! (Bitch, Grow Up! on HBO Max) We talked shamelessness, the value of owning your sh*t and being uncomfortable, plastic surgery, love and dating, family dynamics, and what Marcella thinks truly pushes the envelope in comedy. Plus, Marcella tells a shame story about performing at a comedy festival while reeling from the recent loss of her Dad...and being shocked by an intervention from her friends abou...PlayPlay "Got My P**** Ate In The Orchards" w/Marcella Arguello
"Shame Leads To Starvation From Life" w/ Theo GermaineMar 14, 2023 · 1 hr 16 minThis week I spiraled out with actor, writer & activist Theo Germaine! (The Politician, Work in Progress, They-Slash-Them.) We talked growing up queer/trans in the Midwest, shame embodied as a lanky, hungry bear, the relationship between shame and surviving trauma, navigating sharing vulnerably about yourself when you're a public person, and sooooo much more. Plus, Theo tells a shame story about being impacted by negative reviews of a film they were in, which hurt extra hard b...PlayPlay "Shame Leads To Starvation From Life" w/ Theo Germaine
"I Have Everything You Want & I'm Stress Cutting My Hair" w/ Milly TamarezMar 7, 2023 · 1 hr 7 minThis week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Milly Tamarez! (Betches Sup Podcast, Clown Parade, Wait, Wait...Don't Tell Me) We talked shame and social media, dating and breakups, shame embodied as a sneaky, slithering snake, the brutal impulse to compare yourself with others in the entertainment industry, staying grounded and hopeful when your world view is challenged, and SO MUCH MORE. Follow Milly on Twitter @MillyTamarez, and TikTok and Instagram @mill...PlayPlay "I Have Everything You Want & I'm Stress Cutting My Hair" w/ Milly Tamarez
"Rosebud Baker Is A Self-Care Queen" w/ Rosebud BakerFeb 28, 2023 · 1 hr 10 minThis week I spiraled out with stand up comedian, actress & writer Rosebud Baker! (Whiskey Fists, Life & Beth, SNL) We talked being recovering alcoholics, living like a disgusting swine on tour, feeling no shame when you should and big shame when you shouldn't, sparring with your therapist, the urge to isolate, screaming in the shower, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Rosebud shares a story about being young, drunk and oh-so-white- and coming face to face with some unconscious...PlayPlay "Rosebud Baker Is A Self-Care Queen" w/ Rosebud Baker
"I Can't Make An Old Lady Cry" w/ Niles AbstonFeb 21, 2023 · 58 minThis week I spiraled out with stand up comic, television writer and director Niles Abston (Dave, Household Name.) We talked being a people pleaser in life and the furthest thing from it in comedy, shame embodied as a chilled out orangutan, the most humiliating thing that could happen on a second date, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Niles shares a story about dropping out of college to move to LA and ending up living in his car for a year- his shame insisting that throughout t...PlayPlay "I Can't Make An Old Lady Cry" w/ Niles Abston
"Killin' It At The Hot Dog Factory" w/ Ariel DumasFeb 14, 2023 · 56 minThis week I spiraled out with the delightfully funny, charming, and ELEVEN TIME EMMY-NOMINATED Ariel Dumas (Head Writer- The Late Show With Stephen Colbert.) We talked the three shameful things that happen to everyone in adulthood, why feeling bad can feel oh so good, the spooky and powerful embodied physicality of shame- and Ariel even tolerated me enthusiastically (and obvs unofficially) diagnosing her with ADHD! Plus, Ariel shares a shame story about accidentally mass emaili...PlayPlay "Killin' It At The Hot Dog Factory" w/ Ariel Dumas
"Everything Except The Oprah Diarrhea" w/ Clementine FordFeb 7, 2023 · 59 minThis week I spiraled out with actor and writer Clementine Ford (The L Word, The Young & The Restless.) We talked Mom guilt, bisexual invisibility, shame vs embarrassment, toxic diet culture & fatphobia in Hollywood, the complexities of having a famous mother, and so much more! Plus, Clementine tells a shame story about how a seemingly benign seat on a plane quickly spiraled into feelings of worthlessness- and all the history and emotional layers that came together to creat...PlayPlay "Everything Except The Oprah Diarrhea" w/ Clementine Ford
" A Sticky Monster With Jam Hands" w/ Hannah McGregorJan 31, 2023 · 1 hr 41 minThis week I spiraled out with academic, author & podcaster Hannah McGregor (Witch, Please; A Sentimental Education.) We talked sticky jam-handed shame monsters, confessed insecurities/projections about each other, unpacked humiliating teenaged moments and our queer femme identities, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Hannah tells a super juicy and HORRIBLE shame story about a toxic dynamic with her academic mentor when she was a graduate student, and how that shame-filled relationshi...PlayPlay " A Sticky Monster With Jam Hands" w/ Hannah McGregor
"Women Can Be Stupid, Too" w/ Kuhoo VermaJan 24, 2023 · 1 hr 8 minThis week I spiraled out with film, television & theater actress, and incredible singer Kuhoo Verma (Plan B, The Big Sick.) We talked about how being roasted can feel like being loved, undiagnosed childhood ADHD and punk rock ADHD hacks, the difference between real vulnerability and the performative kind, and so much more. Plus, Kuhoo tells a shame story about a seemingly small but horrifying elementary school moment, and REAL TIME realizes how that on...PlayPlay "Women Can Be Stupid, Too" w/ Kuhoo Verma
"Eating Garbage & Sh*tting Out Double Garbage" w/ Rachel WenitskyJan 17, 2023 · 1 hr 23 minThis week I spiraled out with tv writer, actor, author & comedian Rachel Wenitsky (The Tonight Show, Friends Who Folk. ) We talked being shameless but not in a girlboss way, inherited Jewish anxiety, feeling dumb vs feeling bad, and so much more. Plus, Rachel tells a deeply relatable (especially to anyone with anxiety) shame story about absolutely SPIRALING after adopting her now extremely beloved dog, Bagel. Follow Rachel on Twitter and Instagram @...PlayPlay "Eating Garbage & Sh*tting Out Double Garbage" w/ Rachel Wenitsky
"Casually Destroying People's Lives" w/ Pallavi GunalanJan 10, 2023 · 1 hr 10 minThis week I spiraled out with writer, stand up comedian, and podcaster Pallavi Gunalan (Lovett Or Leave It, City Counsel.) We talked feeling like a big ol' mess, why stealing from corporations isn't all that bad, and even stumbled into some accidental DEEP INNER CHILD WORK. Plus, Pallavi shares a shame story about not awesome choices she made while dating in her twenties- that she's determined to leave where they belong (in her twenties.) Follow Pallavi on Twitter, Instagra...PlayPlay "Casually Destroying People's Lives" w/ Pallavi Gunalan
"Asking Jeeves About Masturbation" w/Jaclyn MooreJan 3, 2023 · 1 hr 32 minThis week I spiraled out with television writer, showrunner & producer Jaclyn Moore (Queer As Folk, Dear White People.) We dove deep into shame showing up via religious trauma, feeling like a bad trans person, horrible online trolls, accidentally trashing someone's work right to their face, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Jaclyn shares a shame story about being a curious Catholic youth and DARING to ask her Dad to explain masturbation- and when Dad failed to provide...PlayPlay "Asking Jeeves About Masturbation" w/Jaclyn Moore
"There's Always An Off-Ramp To Suffering" w/ Ellory SmithDec 20, 2022 · 1 hr 16 minThis week I spiraled out with stand up comedian, Emmy-nominated television writer, and VULNERABLE QUEEN Ellory Smith (Funnilingus, Robot Chicken.) We talked re-parenting yourself as an adult, whether emotional or physical cheating is worse, the way that ignored pain will make itself KNOWN, and so much more. Plus, Ellory tells an incredible shame story about spending more money than she should have on a FRENCH CLOWNING CLASS, only to panic in the first exercise and bail on the class com...PlayPlay "There's Always An Off-Ramp To Suffering" w/ Ellory Smith
"A Hannah Horvath Moment" w/ Ashley RayDec 13, 2022 · 1 hr 8 minThis week I spiraled out with stand-up comic, television writer & podcaster Ashley Ray (TV, I Say w/ Ashley Ray.) We talked the power of a shameless Mom, the fear of letting people down, the ferocity of high school theater kids, and how shame doesn't always have to be nefarious- to Ashley, it's a friendly lemur on her shoulder. Plus, Ashley shares a shame story about being in a relationship with an honestly super terrible older man when she was in her early twenties, and rea...PlayPlay "A Hannah Horvath Moment" w/ Ashley Ray
"I Drive People To Drink & Kill Things I Love" w/ DeAnne SmithDec 6, 2022 · 1 hr 3 minThis week I spiraled out with stand up comic, writer and disarmingly charming person DeAnne Smith (Comedians Of The World: Gentleman Elf, Just For Laughs.) We talked feeling you must earn your worth, accidentally sexting your Dad, and learning that some of the awful notions we carry about ourselves for DECADES may not be true- and maybe never were. Plus, DeAnne shares a truly heartbreaking shame story about accidentally harming their beloved Girl Scout Camp companion- a sweet, innoce...PlayPlay "I Drive People To Drink & Kill Things I Love" w/ DeAnne Smith
"Nothing More Awful Than Having A Human Body" w/ Josh GondelmanNov 29, 2022 · 1 hr 17 minThis week I spiraled out with comedian, writer, and total mensch Josh Gondelman! (Desus & Mero, Last Week Tonight With John Oliver, People Pleaser.) We talked the god-awful experience of having a human body, the desire to control others' perceptions, the psychology of Elon Musk, and so much more. Plus, Josh shares a shame story about his body absolutely betraying him, minutes before his in-laws would arrive to bear witness to the literal mess it made. ...PlayPlay "Nothing More Awful Than Having A Human Body" w/ Josh Gondelman