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The Neurodivergent Struggles Show
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- Ep 15 | Neurodivergent Struggles: AuDHD in Modern DatingJul 30, 2026 · 36 minIn this 15th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Sydney talk about how ADHD, autism, and modern dating intersect in today’s world. They discuss the challenges of balancing personal growth with relationships, the pressure of defining relationships, situationships, attachment styles, and why clear communication is especially important for neurodivergent individuals navigating romance.
The conversation also dives into communication, independence, and the importance of finding a partner who understands neurodivergent needs. The hosts explore topics like anticipating each other’s needs, questioning traditional gender roles, struggles with control, oversharing, decision paralysis, and how novelty, routine, and emotional regulation can shape relationships. They emphasize that healthy partnerships are built on honesty, teamwork, and supporting each other's strengths and weaknesses.
The episode concludes with relatable discussions about level 1 autism, ADHD time blindness, procrastination, and the invisible challenges many neurodivergent people face. Through personal stories and practical advice, Dr. Kojo and Sydney encourage listeners to give themselves grace, seek support when needed, and build relationships that work with their neurodivergent brains instead of against them.
- Episode 14: Dealing with ChangeJul 16, 2026 · 31 minIn this 14th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Sydney talk about embracing change, navigating ADHD and autism, and stepping outside of familiar routines. Together, they discuss why novelty can be both exciting and overwhelming for neurodivergent people, the challenges of perfectionism, and how flexibility within structure helps regulate the nervous system.
The conversation also explores storytelling, creativity, and the importance of supportive environments. Sydney reflects on her career in entertainment, while Dr. Kojo shares how understanding neurodivergence has shaped his work in psychiatry and content creation. They discuss celebrating accomplishments, building strong support systems, recognizing personal strengths, and knowing when to ask for help instead of trying to do everything alone.
The hosts wrap up by answering relatable neurodivergent thoughts about staying up late for alone time, struggles with punctuality, and why working from home can become a trap for people with ADHD. They share practical strategies like setting boundaries, body doubling, creating external accountability, and designing routines that work with the neurodivergent brain rather than against it.
- Episode 13: Mood SwingsJul 3, 2026 · 40 minIn this 13th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily explore the emotional intensity of mood swings in people with ADHD and autism. Emily shares how seemingly small frustrations can quickly spiral into overwhelming emotions, while Dr. Kojo explains why neurodivergent people often experience setbacks, perfectionism, and emotional dysregulation more intensely than neurotypical individuals. Together, they discuss practical ways to regulate emotions before they take over the day.
The conversation also examines how comparison, social media, and relationships can amplify mood swings and self-doubt. Emily opens up about comparing herself to her highly accomplished partner, while Dr. Kojo explains why achievement, purpose, and taking action are essential for maintaining emotional stability. They emphasize that exercise, cleaning, hobbies, and creating healthy routines can help neurodivergent people regulate their nervous systems and break out of emotional spirals.
The hosts also discuss the importance of building confidence through personal growth rather than comparison, finding fulfillment in meaningful work, and recognizing the impact their content has on others living with ADHD and autism. They close the episode by highlighting the value of clear communication in relationships and everyday life, reminding listeners that understanding the neurodivergent brain can lead to healthier emotions, stronger connections, and greater self-compassion.
- Episode 12: AvoidanceJun 11, 2026 · 52 minIn this 12th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily explore avoidance and how it shows up in the lives of neurodivergent people. They discuss procrastination, executive dysfunction, rejection sensitivity, and the tendency to avoid difficult conversations, tasks, or decisions out of fear of conflict, failure, or disappointment. The hosts also examine how avoidance can impact relationships, friendships, finances, and everyday responsibilities.
The conversation dives into attachment styles, communication challenges, and the role that anxiety, ADHD, and autism can play in maintaining healthy relationships. Emily shares her experiences with conflict avoidance and fear of rejection, while Dr. Kojo discusses how neurodivergent people often struggle with emotional regulation, overthinking, and balancing independence with connection. Together, they highlight the importance of self-awareness, communication, and building supportive relationships.
The hosts also respond to relatable neurodivergent thoughts about needing alone time, losing important items, pattern recognition, social rejection, and feeling unheard in conversations. Throughout the episode, they emphasize practical strategies for managing avoidance, creating systems that work with the neurodivergent brain, and finding healthier ways to navigate life, work, and relationships.
- Episode 11: Night Time RoutineMay 28, 2026 · 44 minIn this 11th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily discuss the challenges neurodivergent people face with sleep, nighttime routines, and getting out of bed in the morning. They open up about insomnia, racing thoughts, overstimulation, depression, and how ADHD and autism can constantly battle between craving structure and resisting it. The hosts also share their personal experiences with medication, routines, and the difficulty of regulating their nervous systems.
The conversation explores how routines, exercise, hobbies, and structure can improve mental health and productivity for people with ADHD and autism. Emily talks about creating separate routines for days on set versus days at home, while Dr. Kojo explains why “nothing days,” meditation, and intentionally slowing down have become important parts of his self-care. They also discuss doom scrolling, social media overstimulation, and why neurodivergent people often struggle to truly rest without feeling guilty.
The episode also includes relatable discussions about ADHD habits, procrastination, forgetting medication, overexplaining thoughts, needing background noise, and struggling with boredom. Through humor and honesty, the hosts emphasize the importance of understanding how the neurodivergent brain works and building systems that support healthier sleep, routines, and emotional regulation.
- Episode 10: Being Diagnosed with Autism and ADHD Later in LifeMay 14, 2026 · 1 hr 3 minIn this 10th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily discuss what it feels like to be diagnosed with autism and ADHD later in life. Emily reflects on being diagnosed in her late twenties and wonders how different her life could have been if she had received support earlier, while also questioning whether growing up with those labels during that time period may have negatively affected her confidence and opportunities.
The conversation explores missed potential, masking, financial trauma, and the challenges of navigating life without understanding one’s neurodivergence. Dr. Kojo shares how growing up poor and undiagnosed shaped his intense drive for financial stability, while Emily discusses how her neurodivergence pushed her toward a creative career. Together, they explain why structure, support systems, medication, and nervous system regulation are often essential for neurodivergent adults trying to build stable and fulfilling lives.
The hosts also dive into generational stigma around therapy and medication, especially within immigrant and Black communities, and explain why many adults avoid getting diagnosed due to shame or fear of labels. They emphasize that seeking help later in life can still be transformative, allowing people to better understand themselves, release years of guilt, and finally create systems that work for their brains instead of against them.
- Episode 9: Trauma & CPTSDApr 30, 2026 · 40 minIn this 9th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily explore trauma, PTSD, and CPTSD through the lens of autism and ADHD. They discuss how many late-diagnosed neurodivergent individuals carry childhood wounds caused by unmet needs, neglect, poverty, feeling misunderstood, or growing up without the support they needed. The hosts explain how these early experiences can shape attachment styles, relationships, hypervigilance, and self-worth later in life.
The conversation also dives into the emotional impact of being diagnosed later in adulthood. Emily shares how autism and ADHD were often overlooked in girls, while Dr. Kojo reflects on how finally receiving treatment changed his life and made daily functioning feel lighter. They discuss how proper diagnosis, medication, and compassionate providers can be transformative, especially for those who spent years struggling in silence.
The episode closes with a discussion on motivation, self-sabotage, and the need for challenge in the neurodivergent brain. They also answer a listener question about public speaking and comedy, offering practical advice on overcoming fear, using humor, and embracing authenticity. The hosts emphasize that healing often comes from putting yourself out there, being honest, and creating a life that works with your brain rather than against it.
- Episode 8: Sensory OverloadApr 16, 2026 · 41 minIn this 8th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily explore sensory overload and how it affects individuals with ADHD and autism. They discuss common triggers such as strong smells, loud environments, and the anxiety around trying new foods, highlighting how routines like sticking to “safe foods” and meal planning can help regulate the nervous system.
The conversation shifts to navigating social environments, where they emphasize the importance of having exit plans during overwhelming events. Emily shares how certain spaces, like EDM raves, can surprisingly feel safe and freeing, allowing her to stim and express herself without judgment despite the high sensory input.
They close the episode by addressing the stigma around ADHD medication, encouraging listeners to prioritize their mental health and quality of life. The hosts stress that personal well-being should come before outside opinions, especially when it comes to treatment decisions.
- Episode 7: Nervous System RegulationApr 3, 2026 · 50 minIn this 7th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily explore how neurodivergent individuals, including those with ADHD and autism, often use substances and sex to regulate their nervous systems. They explain how these behaviors can temporarily provide dopamine and a sense of calm, helping manage internal restlessness and emotional intensity.The conversation dives into how self-medication, whether through alcohol, THC, stimulants, or sexual activity, can quickly become compulsive or addictive. The hosts discuss why neurodivergent individuals may struggle with moderation, as well as the impact of rejection sensitivity, mismatched sex drives in relationships, and how undiagnosed neurodivergence can contribute to risky patterns of behavior.The episode closes with a focus on awareness and treatment, emphasizing that understanding one’s neurodivergence and seeking proper support can be life-changing, even later in life.Find us on all platforms at: @neurodivergentstruggles
- Episode 6: MaskingApr 2, 2026 · 49 minIn this 6th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily explore masking in neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with autism and ADHD. They describe masking as adopting a socially acceptable persona to fit in, explaining how it can be useful in certain environments but often comes at the cost of exhaustion, burnout, and a gradual loss of identity.The conversation highlights the importance of balance, recognizing that fully unmasking is not always realistic, but neither is constantly suppressing one’s authentic self. The hosts emphasize the value of choosing when to mask and when to be fully authentic, especially in safe spaces where genuine connection and understanding can exist.They also discuss the challenges of feeling misunderstood by family and society, and why many neurodivergent individuals benefit from rejecting one-size-fits-all neurotypical advice. Instead, the episode encourages self-awareness, self-compassion, and building a lifestyle that accommodates both structure and chaos, allowing the neurodivergent brain to function in a healthier, more sustainable way.Find us on all platforms at: @neurodivergentstruggles
- Episode 5: LimerenceApr 2, 2026 · 53 minIn this 5th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily explore limerence, defined as an involuntary infatuation that leads to placing someone on a pedestal and loving the idea of them more than the reality. The co-host shares her experience of staying in a four-year relationship despite early red flags, realizing she was more in love with being in love than with the person himself. They discuss how limerence can feel especially powerful for individuals with ADHD and autism, who may struggle with connection and latch onto the attention and validation.The conversation dives into how undiagnosed neurodivergence, attachment styles, and family expectations can prolong unhealthy relationships. With an anxious and avoidant dynamic at play, they examine how these patterns repeat and why breaking them requires intentional boundaries. Dr. Kojo shares his personal rule of limiting early time spent together to avoid emotional overinvestment, while emphasizing the importance of setting realistic expectations and maintaining separate sources of dopamine and identity within relationships.The episode concludes with a discussion on autistic regression, explaining how years of masking can lead to burnout and a temporary loss of functioning that is often misunderstood as laziness. The hosts highlight the importance of awareness, boundaries, and understanding the nervous system when navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual.Find us on all platforms at: @neurodivergentstruggles
- Episode 4: Self-SabotageApr 2, 2026 · 35 minIn this 4th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily dive into the topic of self-sabotage and how it often shows up in subtle ways for neurodivergent people. They explain that self-sabotage is not always dramatic, but can look like being late, missing opportunities, impulsive spending, substance use, or drifting from purpose, especially when things are going well or when boredom sets in.The conversation explores nervous system regulation, success, and vices. Dr. Kojo shares how being unregulated can lead to poor decisions and repeated cycles of self-sabotage, particularly around substances, relationships, and the need for stimulation. They discuss how certain vices, including video games and dating, can become consuming for neurodivergent individuals, and why stability and uneventful days are often healthier than excitement with consequences.The episode also includes an audience question about early signs of autism in young children, highlighting the importance of early evaluation and diagnosis. The hosts explain common developmental signs to watch for, emphasize that autism can be identified as early as age two, and stress that early understanding helps parents better support communication and development, while reinforcing that there is nothing wrong with a child who has autism.Find us on all platforms at: @neurodivergentstruggles
- Episode 3: Having ADHD and Autism at the same timeApr 2, 2026 · 50 minIn this 3rd episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo sits down with Emily to discuss neurodivergence, identity, and life as an actor. Emily shares why she prefers the gender-neutral term “actor,” and reflects on how ADHD and autism were often overlooked in girls when she was younger, leading many women to receive diagnoses later in life.Emily opens up about living with high-functioning autism, including sensory sensitivities and how different environments affect her neurodivergent brain. She compares life in New York City and Los Angeles, noting how constant stimulation fed her ADHD but also encouraged unhealthy burnout, while LA’s slower pace requires more intentional effort to connect socially. The conversation also explores isolation, addiction, and how substances can temporarily quiet the inner stress many neurodivergent people experience.The hosts discuss routine, work fulfillment, and why traditional 9-to-5 jobs often feel incompatible with neurodivergent needs. Emily shares why acting provides both structure and novelty, and why she chose fulfillment over financial security. They also talk about medication, exercise, social challenges like oversharing, and practical strategies for navigating relationships, work, and mental health with compassion and self-awareness.Find us on all platforms at: @neurodivergentstruggles
- Episode 2: Falling Out with FriendsApr 2, 2026 · 58 minIn this 2nd episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo sits down with Mila and Roberto to talk about friendships through a neurodivergent lens. Mila shares how friendship has begun to feel more convenient and surface-level over time, leading her to become more guarded and self-reliant. Roberto reflects on long-standing friendships from his youth and how a fallout with a close friend reshaped his understanding of connection.Dr. Kojo also opens up about navigating relationships as someone with ADHD, including difficulty reading people’s intentions and realizing that many past friendships were one-sided. The conversation explores how ADHD affects maintaining relationships, from forgetting to reach out to loved ones to the “out of sight, out of mind” experience that many neurodivergent people relate to.The episode continues with neurodivergent thoughts and listener questions, covering topics like finding community with other neurodivergent people, late autism diagnoses, the impact of hormones on bipolar disorder, and the risks of misdiagnosing bipolar disorder as depression or anxiety. The discussion emphasizes validation, accurate diagnosis, and the importance of proper support and treatment.Find us on all platforms at: @neurodivergentstruggles
- Episode 1: Signs That You May Have AutismApr 2, 2026 · 1 hr 34 minIn this 1st episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo along with Mila Max and Roberto Aguilar talk about signs of autism. They share real life experiences and explain how autism can show up differently in everyday life.
The hosts discuss ADHD, autism, and bipolar disorder, including why many people do not get diagnosed until later in life. They talk about feeling different, masking to fit in, and why social situations and small talk can be hard for neurodivergent people, especially women.
This podcast is a safe and welcoming space where learning about your brain is encouraged. We invite your questions and topic ideas, and all stories stay anonymous unless you say otherwise.
Find us on all platforms at: @neurodivergentstruggles
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