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The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women
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- SEX EDUCATION IS AN ISLAMIC RESPONSIBILITYOct 5, 2026 · 1 hr 5 minSahar Pirzada is the Director of Movement Building at HEART To Grow, a national nonprofit advancing sexual health, reproductive justice, and support for survivors of gendered violence in Muslim communities. In this episode, Sahar joins Salma for a conversation about the sex education Muslims actually need. She shares her own journey entering marriage with little sexual knowledge, experiencing years of painful sex before discovering she had vaginismus and a physical condition requiring surgery...
- LATINO CONVERT: FINDING ISLAM, GETTING SOBER & HAVING A LOT OF SEX (MARITO LOPEZ)Sep 21, 2026 · 1 hr 5 minThis week, Salma sits down with comedian Marito Lopez, the first straight cis man to ever enter The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women. Salma and Marito first knew each other in Toronto, when Salma was a deeply religious virgin and Marito was drinking, partying, and struggling with addiction. Years later, their lives have taken almost opposite turns: Salma stepped away from practicing Islam, while Marito got sober, converted to Islam, and found in faith the higher power he had been searching fo...
- I'M TRANS, MUSLIM & STILL A VIRGIN AT 36Aug 31, 2026 · 1 hr 4 minThis week, Salma sits down with Pakistani trans woman, celebrity makeup artist and content creator Ayman to talk about the extraordinary journey that led her to becoming the woman she always knew she was. As a child, Ayman had a recurring dream about a mysterious girl she could never quite see…until years later, after transitioning, she realized the woman she had been chasing was herself. Ayman opens up about growing up between Pakistan, Saudi Arabia and the U.S.; experimenting with femininit...
- THE MUSLIM STUDENTS' ASSOCIATION PRESIDENT GAVE ME STDSAug 17, 2026 · 1 hr 36 minWhat really happens in the Muslim Students Association? Was the MSA a place of belonging, or a place where everyone learned how to hide? In the podcast’s first-ever panel episode, Salma Hindy is joined by Rania Hannan and Noor Jehan Ansari to unpack the halal, the haram, and the VERY haram of MSA culture, featuring YOUR submitted stories. Each woman had a very different experience inside Muslim student communities: from finding friendship, belonging, and leadership opportunities to experienci...
- I LOST MY VIRGINITY AT 31...IN EGYPTAug 5, 2026 · 1 hr 10 minWe are spilling the tea, honey! On the surface, this is the story of the guy Salma lost her virginity to. But it's really the story of what happened after she lost her family. A few months after taking off her hijab and moving to New York completely alone, Salma found herself in Dahab, Egypt, where she met a 24-year-old hotel owner who would unknowingly become the person she would lose her virginity to. In this episode, she shares the full story: the spontaneous one-night stand that became he...
- FINDING MY IDENTITY AFTER HIJABJul 20, 2026 · 57 minWhat happens after the hijab comes off? In this deeply personal solo episode, Salma Hindy shares the year-long journey between deciding to remove her hijab and finally taking it off publicly. She opens up about the immense pressure she put on herself to do it before turning 30, the secret double life she lived during that transition, and the fear that she would lose everything that had defined her. She reflects on questioning her faith, navigating family expectations, announcing her intention...
- LISTEN TO YOUR F*CKING BODY!Jul 6, 2026 · 54 minYour body is talking to you right now. But what happens when your body gives you an answer you weren’t expecting? In this episode, Salma sits down with “Aisha,” a Muslim woman in her early 40s who grew up trying to be the perfect “good girl” while carrying years of religious shame, sexual conditioning, and chronic pelvic pain (which she first noticed when she started having sex with white, non-Muslim men). Aisha shares her journey with pelvic floor dysfunction, painful sex, vaginismus, and th...
- WHAT REALLY HAPPENED TO ME ON AYAHUASCAMay 18, 2026 · 1 hr 3 minIn this deeply personal solo episode, host Salma Hindy shares what really happened during six ayahuasca ceremonies in Egypt: including visions involving family trauma, religion, sexuality, heartbreak, vaginismus, emotionally unavailable men, and the hidden emotional pain carried through generations. What begins as a spiritual exploration slowly turns into something far more unsettling, healing, and transformative. Across multiple ceremonies led by facilitators, shamans, and complete chaos in ...
- FROM AN AFGHAN ARRANGED MARRIAGE TO A 10-YEAR LESBIAN LOVE STORYMay 4, 2026 · 1 hr 2 minThis week on The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, Salma sits down with Spozhmi, an Afghan-Canadian woman, to share her journey of discovering her sexuality, falling in love with her partner of 10 years, and choosing herself in the face of cultural and familial pressure. From being taken back to Afghanistan for an arranged marriage… to secretly building a relationship with a woman… to coming out to her family twice - first through a handwritten letter, and years later again over the phone - t...
- WHY I TOOK MY HIJAB OFF AFTER 23 YEARSMar 30, 2026 · 54 minFor years, this has been the number one question she’s been asked: Why did you take the hijab off? In this deeply personal solo episode, Salma finally shares the full story, five years later. This wasn’t one decision made in one moment. It was a long, painful, complicated unraveling shaped by heartbreak, therapy, faith, isolation, family pressure, and the slow realization that her relationship to the hijab was tied to much more than modesty. Salma reflects on growing up loving the hijab, the...
- EVERYONE DESERVES BUTTERY SEX (VAGINISMUS IS CURABLE)Mar 23, 2026 · 1 hr 11 minVaginismus is curable. And it’s not something that should take years. In this episode, Salma sits down with pelvic floor physiotherapist and “Vagina Rehab Doctor” Janelle Howell to unpack the truth about sexual pain, healing, and what it actually takes to feel safe and connected in your body. What starts as a conversation about vaginismus quickly opens into something much bigger: shame, religion, pleasure, power, and the way so many women have been taught to disconnect from themselves. Salma ...
- HOW I LOST TWO SWEETHEARTS WITHOUT MEANING TO (HOW I BROKE MY OWN HEART)Feb 23, 2026 · 52 minIn this deeply personal solo episode, Salma reflects on the two heartbreaks that changed her life (one romantic, one a friendship) and the painful realization that she was the one who ended them. Two years ago, after losing her family, moving 19 times, living in survival mode, and spiraling through manic travel, chaos, and sexual hunger, Salma met two people who were sweet, sensitive, and safe. And when things started to feel intimate…she panicked. For the first time, she explores her avoidan...
- GET THE F*CK OUT OF YOUR PARENTS' HOUSEJan 13, 2026 · 1 hr 9 minWhat does it really mean to “obey your parents”? And what happens when obedience becomes suffocation? In this pillar episode, Salma is joined by an anonymous guest, Fatima, for a deeply honest conversation about emotional enmeshment, delayed adulthood, and what it actually takes to cut the cord. Fatima grew up in a close-knit Arab Muslim family in the U.K. where independence was only acceptable through marriage. Despite being asexual and aromantic - and having no interest in men - she was tau...
- I WENT TO A SEX CLUB LOOKING FOR A HUGDec 17, 2025 · 53 minIn this solo episode, Salma Hindy recounts attending a sex club in Berlin, where a man violated her and then tried to disappear - only to be confronted months later, unexpectedly, at a comedy show in New York. She reflects on what it meant to call him out publicly on stage, reclaiming a sense of power she didn’t realize she’d lost. She reflects on the first feeling she noticed immediately following the assault: not anger that he crossed her boundaries, but sadness that he had left. She ...
- THE GAYS AREN’T GOING TO HELL, DAD. (From Corporal Punishment to Queer Liberation)Nov 25, 2025 · 1 hr 12 minComedian, writer, and actor Tarek Ziad becomes the first Muslim man (and first queer man) to join the podcast. Like two besties at a slumber party, Salma and Tarek honestly and hilariously unravel everything their communities tell them to hide: queerness, shame, corporal punishment, disownment, religion, sexual repression, and the long, painful road toward loving yourself. Tarek shares his journey growing up Berber (Amazigh) in a strict Moroccan household in Florida: from being punished for h...
- NERVOUS SYSTEM ON FIRE (Molested by Father, Crucified by Siblings)Nov 17, 2025 · 54 minTW: SEXUAL, PHYSICAL & EMOTIONAL ABUSE From the outside, Sara’s life looked like a dream: a respected gynecologist father, a big Gulf family, religious prestige, and the illusion of stability. Inside, it was a battlefield. At five years old, she was molested by her father - the same man who later walked her down the aisle. Her childhood was chaos: screaming, bloody domestic fights, a mother beaten and belittled, and a nervous system that learned to survive before it ever felt safe. Years ...
- WHAT DADDY DOESN’T KNOW…BOLLYWOOD SEXY BABY (JASMINE SHERNI)Oct 27, 2025 · 1 hr 11 minJasmine Sherni is the daughter of a Pakistani Muslim father and an Ashkenazi Jewish mother. Often bullied as a “fake Jew”, Jasmine is an adult performer who went viral after her first Bollywood p*rn scene, becoming the representation so many people had been waiting for. With over 34 million views on P*rnHub, Jasmine shares her journey from strict-dad households to BDSM stages, from ICU nursing to adult stardom, while navigating devastating loss - the sudden death of her older sister, her moth...
- HORNY, HUNGRY & FIGURING IT OUTOct 13, 2025 · 1 hrNobody loves overthinking sex more than Muslim women in their 20s and 30s trying to make up for a stolen teenhood. This week, Salma sits down with California-born Pakistani-American Aleeyaa for a raw, hilarious, and soul-baring conversation about sex, rejection, and agency. From learning about sex in a USC classroom to carrying the weight of “no sex before marriage” since age 12, Aleeyaa unpacks what it means to navigate desire, boundaries, and shame in Muslim and South Asian households. Toge...
- FROM VIRGIN TO ADULT PERFORMER (SARAH ARABIC)Sep 29, 2025 · 56 minDoppelgängers Salma Hindy and Sarah Arabic (who share the SAME 9/11 birthday) finally sit down face-to-face to talk about everything sex. Sarah grew up in Baghdad with no sex education and a family that never spoke about periods, pleasure, or intimacy. After moving to Dubai for college, she found freedom in her dorm room, exploring porn as an unexpected form of sex education. At 18, she discovered her first orgasm through Tumblr blogs, teaching herself piece by piece. Later, she earned a mast...
- ENGAGED TO A ZIONISTSep 22, 2025 · 47 minWhat happens when the person you love turns out to be violent, racist, and determined to ruin you? This week, Algerian-American comedian Hedya joins Salma to share her shocking journey of falling for a man who seemed like home after years of family tension and cultural expectations, only to find herself trapped in a cycle of abuse. During the pandemic lockdown, he pushed her, dragged her out of the kitchen, and even locked her on the balcony. Yet two days later, she found herself baking him l...
- INSIDE THE MUSLIM MATCHMAKER’S MIND (YASMIN ELHADY)Sep 15, 2025 · 1 hr 2 minWhat really makes love last? And how do you find a partner when family, community, and faith are all part of the puzzle? In this episode, Salma sits down with her older sister and mentor, Yasmin Elhady: comedian, lawyer, community leader, and one of the hosts of Hulu’s Muslim Matchmaker. Yasmin has matched over 58 couples and shares her expertise on it all: The 3 things every relationship needsWhy couples therapy doesn’t work without a foundationBeing “relationship young” and learning through...
- IF IT’S NOT A F*CK YES, IT’S A NO.Sep 8, 2025 · 57 minTrigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of rape, alcoholism, domestic violence, and abuse. Please listen with care. This week, Salma sits down with trauma-informed divorce coach Sarzana Zafar - divorced twice (because once is boring) - to unpack the father wound and consent. Sarzana shares her journey from growing up with an alcoholic father in a Muslim community that judged and shamed instead of helping, to being date-raped at 19 when her repeated “no”s were ignored. What followed...
- LOVER GIRL WITH A BODY COUNT OF 100+Sep 1, 2025 · 1 hr 5 minFor the Love of Sex: Lover Girl with a Body Count of 100+ This week, Salma sits down with Yasmine, a Karachi-born lover girl who has lived, loved, and - by her own account - slept with half of Dubai. With a body count well over 100, Yasmine opens up about her wildest experiences: from sex parties, kinks, and threesomes (including one she literally walked out of mid-session), to discovering the healing power of an open relationship. Raised under a mother who shamed her body and nitpicked every...
- TOO VIRGIN FOR THE WEST, TOO SLUT FOR THE EASTAug 18, 2025 · 48 minTrigger Warning: Sexual Assault, Sexual Coercion Iranian-American Sasha got her first period because of 9/11 (yes, really). Growing up in the Midwest to a cultural - NOT religious - family, her life became a crash course in contradictions: purity rings and sex-ed teachers calling girls “hoes,” a mom who said virgins are chocolates in fancy wrappers, dating a man she wasn’t attracted to for three years, being sexually assaulted by him, and hearing her mom respond, “It’s your fault.” She chased...
- VAGINISMUS, BODY IMAGE & CLAIMING JOY: A JOURNEY FROM SHAME TO SELF-LOVEAug 11, 2025 · 46 minGrowing up Pakistani-American in a conservative Muslim household, Hina learned early that her body was something to hide, police, and feel shame about. From a traumatic first period experience and relentless bullying, to chronic friend-zoning and a lifetime of sexualization, she spent decades feeling like sex was a party she’d never be invited to. In this raw and powerful conversation, Hina opens up about: Navigating vaginismus and pelvic floor therapy while breaking the silence in Muslim spa...
- DIVORCE, DISABILITY & SEXY TIME WITH YOUR PALESTINIAN TETAJul 28, 2025 · 42 minPalestinian comedian Maysoon Zayid waited until marriage to have sex (at 33 years old). Then life came at her fast. In this raw and hilarious conversation with Salma Hindy, Maysoon opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of her romantic life and how living with cerebral palsy shaped her journey. From dating a Broadway River Dancer, to enduring miscarriages and finding relief after divorce, she reflects on the freedom of middle age and what it really means to reclaim one’s story. LINK TO ...
- The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women - EPISODE 1 - Salma Hindy's Sexual JourneyApr 21, 2025 · 48 minFrom early childhood experiences, finding out about sex, vaginismus, first experiences with girls, fantasy boy crushes, celibacy to Ayahausca and beyond, Salma Hindy shares her entire sexual journey and the intention of this podcast. GUEST CALL OUT. Anonymity guaranteed. If you would like to be a guest on this pod, please email thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen@gmail.com with a short synopsis of your story. Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmus...
- Teaser of Episode 1 of The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim WomenApr 14, 2025Find out about Salma Hindy's FIRSTS First exposure to Sex EdFirst time truly learning Sex EdFirst time having sex and losing virginityFirst time learning about Vaginismus Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy
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