The Way You Show Up

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• Why I Was Failing Every Morning... (And I Didn't Even Know It)May 12, 2026 · 33 minI have a PhD in performance psychology. I know, with absolute certainty, that the morning sets the tone for the entire day. And I have been fundamentally screwing mine up. Checking Slack before my feet hit the floor. Scrolling Instagram before I'd said a word to God. Trying to ramp from stillness straight into a 4-mile run with zero transition. By 9am I'd feel that weight settle on my chest. Anxious. Irritable. Behind. Two hours into a day I'd started peaceful and hopeful. So I documented 7 days of my mornings. Not the highlight reel. The real thing. The day I woke up an hour late. The day I cried during my quiet time. The day I sat with my journal from 2 years ago and realized I still hadn't done the thing God told me to do. What I learned isn't "wake up at 5am" or "follow these 12 steps." It's this: I have to learn to BE before I DO. Because when my doing comes from a frantic place, everything I touch carries that frenzy with it. Your version might be the opposite. You might need movement first, stillness later. That's the point. There's no universal morning routine. There's only the one that helps YOU show up as your best self. In this video, I'll walk you through all 7 days, what worked, what fell apart, and the key takeaway that applies whether you're a stay-at-home parent, a CEO, or somewhere in between. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Why I Was Failing Every Morning... (And I Didn't Even Know It)
• What To Do When People Won't Freaking ListenMay 5, 2026 · 25 minTake the free assessment → https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment --------------------------------------------------- You've said it once. You've said it twice. You've said it fifteen times over four months. And somehow, nothing changes. You're not crazy. You're just not being heard. I lived this recently. I told a coworker in January that we needed to cut a software that wasn't working. He agreed. Or so I thought. Fast forward to April and we're still having the same conversation. January. That's when we decided. January. In this video, I'm breaking down the three reasons people don't listen when you speak and three things you can actually do about it. Distraction. Different wiring. Lack of clarity. These three things are behind almost every "why won't they just listen to me" moment you've ever had. I'm also walking you through the DISC personality framework (my favorite tool for understanding how people process information differently) and why speaking louder has never once helped someone understand you better. The hard question isn't "why won't they listen?" The hard question is "am I being a person worth listening to?" That's the one that changes everything. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay What To Do When People Won't Freaking Listen
• The Way God Shows Up — Katie SimkinsApr 30, 2026 · 1 hrKatie Simkins didn't grow up knowing Jesus. She didn't grow up in church. She didn't grow up with hope. At 16, doctors found 11 precancerous growths in her body. A group of strangers prayed over her. The scans came back completely clear, not even scarring. Weeks later, her brother unexpectedly passed away. And what followed was a year she calls "the year of darkness." Walking in physical darkness. Carrying grief, guilt, and the weight of a question she couldn't answer... why would God heal me and then take him? This conversation wrecked me. Katie shares the moment she almost gave up. The woman who stopped her in the hallway. The prayer she thought was a goodbye that became a beginning. And how a thrift store army men set and a stranger's receipt marked "paid in full" is still teaching her kids who God is today. We talk about: What it looks like to follow Jesus when your friends hate Him. What it means to stop performing your faith and start living it. And why the greatest answer to prayer might not be a changed circumstance... but His presence in the middle of it. Let's dive in. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The Way God Shows Up — Katie Simkins
• The Confidence Blueprint: How To Own Any RoomApr 23, 2026 · 1 hrHow can you own the room and speak with confidence? Nobody cares if your palms are sweaty. Nobody cares if your voice shakes. Nobody cares if you're secretly terrified. They care if you command the space you're in. In this episode, I sit down with Eva Daniel, former speech writer at Ramsey Solutions, 11 years at Focus on the Family, now a speech coach to leaders, to break down what it actually takes to own a room. Stage. Zoom. Boardroom. Bible study. Tuesday team meeting. Ground your feet. Take the pause. Open your palms. Hold the thought. That's the game. We get into the pause that resets the entire room before you say a word, why you should never end on a Q&A (you just handed a stranger the mic), the "queso" moment that will change how you hear yourself forever, and the SPARK framework for walking in with something worth saying. If you've ever shrunk in a meeting, rushed through a presentation, or walked off stage wishing you'd been bigger in the moment... this one's for you. Get Eva's 12 Questions To Write A Killer Speech Here: speakshop.com I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The Confidence Blueprint: How To Own Any Room
• God Is Not A Republican (Or A Democrat)Apr 16, 2026 · 1 hr 24 minTalking to people who disagree with me politically has gotten hard. Like, really hard. Sometimes I feel like the world is going crazy and I don't know how to have a normal conversation anymore. So I brought in one of the smartest people I know, Dr. Rubel Shelly, to help me figure it out. He has his Master's and PhD from Vanderbilt. He's been a preacher for decades. And his view on how Christians should engage with politics is refreshing, clarifying, and honestly? A little challenging. In this episode, we get into it. Can Christians even be civil anymore? Should Christian principles become law? What's the difference between voting your values and Christian nationalism? Why did Constantine almost ruin Christianity? And what does it actually look like to love someone who votes the opposite of you? Rubel walks us through Tim Keller's framework, two "red" priorities, two "blue" priorities, and the fifth one we keep forgetting: blessed are the peacemakers. We talk about the early church dying for their faith. A young woman in Jerusalem choosing baptism knowing her family would kill her. Christians in India being told the law of Christ is higher than the law of the land. And the uncomfortable question I couldn't stop thinking about: Are we just trying to make Christianity easy? Because Jesus never made it easy. He told people to walk away from families, homes, and comfort to follow Him. It was never both/and. It was Jesus or nothing. My biggest takeaway from this whole conversation: My Christian beliefs matter more than the law of any land I could ever live in. It doesn't matter who's in Congress or in the Oval Office. Jesus is on the throne. That has to be the guiding principle. This one's long. This one's good. And this one might stretch you a little. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kiPlayPlay God Is Not A Republican (Or A Democrat)
• What No One Is Telling You About Using AIApr 9, 2026 · 51 minAI isn't intelligent. It's a calculator that learned how to talk. And we're treating it like a therapist, a best friend, a dating coach, even a parent. In this episode, I sit down with Jared Pratt, our resident AI expert at Marriage Helper, and he breaks down what AI actually is and what it absolutely is not. No real understanding. No real empathy. No real wisdom. Just math predicting the next word. People are building entire relationships with chatbots. They're outsourcing responses to their scared 10-year-old. They're letting an algorithm tell them who to date. That's the world we're living in right now. Jared explains how LLMs work in plain English, why these platforms are designed to keep you engaged (not to help you grow), and why younger generations are the most at risk. We also talk about what guardrails need to exist and the ones you can put in place for yourself today. AI isn't going away. But if we don't get smart about how we use it, we're headed for an intelligence epidemic where people stop thinking, stop feeling, and stop connecting altogether. This one's important. Watch the whole thing. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay What No One Is Telling You About Using AI
• Why You Keep Losing Focus and Why Your Old Habits Are Keeping You StuckApr 7, 2026 · 34 minYou keep going back to what's comfortable. And it keeps producing nothing. That's exactly what Peter did. In this video, I'm studying John 21 with you and breaking down why Peter, after witnessing the resurrection, went right back to fishing. Back to the old habits. Back to what felt safe. Back to what produced nothing without Jesus. Sound familiar? I've been there. Running on the hamster wheel. Doing the things that feel normal instead of the things God is actually calling me to do. But here's what hit me: Jesus didn't give up on Peter. He showed up on that shore and reminded him of his focus. Three times. "Feed my sheep. Follow me. Stop worrying about everyone else." And Peter finally changed how he showed up. In this video, I walk through John 21, Luke 5, 1 Peter 1, and Acts 2 using the COMMA method of studying scripture (Context, Observation, Message, Meditation, Application) and share what God revealed to me about focus, habits, and purpose. This is the first time I've done anything like this on this channel, and I'd love for you to study scripture with me. Drop your takeaways in the comments. I learn from you just as much as I share with you. Subscribe and share this with someone who needs to hear it today. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Why You Keep Losing Focus and Why Your Old Habits Are Keeping You Stuck
• Did Jesus Really Raise From The Dead?Mar 31, 2026 · 1 hr 4 minDid Jesus Really Raise From The Dead? If Jesus didn't raise from the dead, then nothing else in the Bible really matters. That's not just my opinion. That's what the Bible says about itself. So can we actually trust that the resurrection happened? That's the question I've been wanting to explore for years. In this episode, I sit down with one of my pastors, Cory Shumate, to walk through the logical case for the resurrection. Cory breaks it down in a way that doesn't require you to be a biblical scholar. We look at the four main theories people use to argue against the resurrection and why each one falls apart, and then we walk through the four key facts that point to the resurrection being true. In this episode, we cover: Why the resurrection is the foundation of the entire Christian faith, the mass hallucination theory and why it doesn't hold up, the legendary development theory and why there wasn't enough time for myths to form, the swoon theory and why Jesus couldn't have survived the cross, the stolen body theory and why none of the three versions of it make sense, the four facts that make the resurrection the most logical explanation, why the women being the first witnesses actually strengthens the case, extra biblical sources that confirm Jesus was crucified, why not everyone believes even when the evidence is compelling, Cory's personal story of going from atheism to faith, and why walking past the hard questions actually makes your faith weaker. Cory Shumate is a pastor whose faith journey began as an atheist in high school. His willingness to wrestle with doubt and ask hard questions is one of the things I admire most about him. 📖 Book mentioned: Risen Indeed by Gary Habermas 📖 Also referenced: The Case for Christ by Lee Strobel Whether you are a Christian looking for more confidence in what you believe or someone who's just curious and exploring, I hope this conversation gives you something to sit with. If you want to keep learning, I recommend checking out the Bible Project on YouTube for an approachable breakdown of what the Bible actually says. If this encouraged you, share it with someone who might be wrestling with these same questions. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: <a href=PlayPlay Did Jesus Really Raise From The Dead?
• The Biggest Mistake You Make When Friends Ask for Advice with Meredith BallMar 24, 2026 · 56 minEver feel like you've become the unofficial therapist in your friend group? You're not alone, and I've been there too. Most of us make one critical mistake when someone comes to us with a problem: we try to fix it. In this episode, I sit down with licensed professional counselor Meredith Ball (LPC) to talk about how to actually support the people in your life without overstepping, shutting them down, or burning yourself out. Meredith helped me see some things about my own listening habits that I honestly needed to hear, especially how growing up in a conservative church environment shaped the way I respond when people come to me with their struggles. In this episode, we cover: How to listen without jumping into fix-it mode, what to do when a friend is clearly making a bad decision, when and how to have a moral confrontation with someone you love, the one thing that keeps most of us from truly hearing another person, how to support a friend who's thinking about leaving their marriage, why "do whatever makes you happy" might be the worst advice you can give, what "doing the work" actually means, and the truth about whether AI and ChatGPT can replace real human connection. Meredith Ball is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Marriage Helper Certified Coach who specializes in helping individuals and couples navigate difficult relational dynamics. 📖 Book mentioned: The Lost Art of Listening by Michael Nichols and Martha Straus Here's what I took away from this conversation: everything is endurable, learning to set your emotions to the side so you can stay present with someone is a game changer, and how you show up for the people in your life starts with the work you're doing on yourself. If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The Biggest Mistake You Make When Friends Ask for Advice with Meredith Ball
• For Anyone Who's Ever Struggled With Their Body... Listen To ThisMar 17, 2026 · 52 minThis conversation is one I've been so excited to share with y'all. I sat down with my friend Emily Allen, and she boldly shared her story of struggling with an eating disorder that started all the way back in middle school. What began as trying to manage health issues turned into years of mental bondage around food, body image, and an identity that was built on appearance. Emily is honest about all of it, and I think so many of us can relate more than we realize. But here's what I love most. Emily shares the powerful moment she prayed with her sisters and experienced complete freedom. And the joy she walks in today? You can see it the second she walks into a room. We also talk about raising daughters with a healthy view of their bodies, the danger of comparison and social media, and what it really looks like to find your identity beyond the way you look. If you've ever struggled with body image, food anxiety, or feeling like you're just not enough, this one is for you. Follow Emily: @belovedthriftedbundles on Instagram @thriftedsisterco on Instagram I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay For Anyone Who's Ever Struggled With Their Body... Listen To This
• How To Stop Living Everyone Else's Vision For Your Life with Micheal FelkerMar 10, 2026 · 49 minYou know that thing you keep saying you're going to do? The conversation you keep avoiding. The vision you have for your life that you keep putting on hold because everyone else needs something from you first. You might think it's balance... but it's not. It's fear. In this episode, I sit down with Micheal Felker and we get into what actually keeps people stuck, and it's not what most people think. We talk about the difference between acute and chronic anxiety, why anxiety is contagious (and I tell a story from Kenya that proves it), and what self-differentiation really means when you're trying to lead your life without losing yourself to everyone else's expectations. Micheal shares a story about a man on a bridge that will change how you think about the responsibility you're carrying for other people's lives. And we get honest about what it looks like when you care too much about what people think of you, and what it costs you. If you've ever felt like you're doing more work for someone else's life than they are, this one's for you. In this episode we cover: → How to identify what's really keeping you stuck → The difference between acute and chronic anxiety → Why anxiety spreads and how to stop carrying everyone else's → What self-differentiation is and why it matters for leaders, parents, and anyone trying to move forward → The "bridge" story that will make you rethink who you're holding on to → How to have the nerve to choose your own vision without disconnecting from the people you love Today's Guest: Micheal Felker Micheal Felker is passionate about helping people experience hope and transformation in the areas that matter most - faith, leadership, and marriage. He serves as a pastoral coach through his ministry Kicking at the Darkness and works with Marriage Helper , supporting individuals and couples who want to rebuild and strengthen their marriages. Micheal loves helping leaders find hope, grow in resilience, and lead with courage in every area of their lives. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmPlayPlay How To Stop Living Everyone Else's Vision For Your Life with Micheal Felker
• How To Give And Receive Feedback with Dr. J.R. BriggsMar 3, 2026 · 59 minToday we are tackling something that we all have to deal with, but very few of us actually know how to do well: feedback. In this episode, I am honored to be joined by leadership coach, speaker, and author Dr. J.R. Briggs. We are diving deep into the art of giving and receiving feedback, figuring out which of the two is actually more important (spoiler alert: it’s receiving!), and uncovering why feedback often feels so personal and scary. J.R. shares an incredible story about trapeze school that perfectly illustrates why we need outside perspectives, and we talk about the practical things you can start doing today to completely change how you handle criticism and praise. We discuss how creating healthy feedback loops is the ultimate key to emotional intelligence and growth. I walked away from this conversation with three specific things I am immediately applying to my day-to-day life, and I know you will too. Take the free PIES assessment to see your inputs, outputs, and where your biggest area for growth is: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment In this episode, we cover: Why receiving feedback is a more vital skill than giving it The trapeze analogy: why we desperately need outside perspectives Practical steps for receiving tough feedback without getting defensive (and the only two words you really need to say) Why you must ask for permission before giving someone else feedback How to calm your "reptilian brain" when you feel angry or triggered The danger of overdrawing your "trust bank account" in relationships Two powerful, vulnerable questions you can ask your trusted circle right now to uncover your blind spots This is The Way You Show Up — a podcast and YouTube series all about the science of attraction and influence, and how focusing on these four pillars changes the way you show up at work, at home, in your marriage, in your parenting, and beyond. New episodes every week. Subscribe so you don't miss one! 📖 J.R.'s Latest Book: https://bit.ly/4l2cJjI Dr. J.R. Briggs lives with a clear and focused calling: to grow fruit on other people’s trees. His work seeks to bridge the gap between spiritual formation and actionable leadership practices, aiming to help faith leaders and their organizations grow both in their faith and their impact on their communities. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the sciencePlayPlay How To Give And Receive Feedback with Dr. J.R. Briggs
• The 4 Part Method That Changes The Way You Show UpFeb 24, 2026 · 39 minI'm back, y'all and SO much has happened since the last time we talked. In this episode, I'm sharing the updated science of attraction and influence and breaking down the PIES method: the four pillars that change the way you show up in every area of your life. PIES stands for Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual, and each pillar has four specific inputs that you can control. These aren't about looking a certain way or performing for other people. They're about building the kind of embodied confidence that people notice when you walk into a room. In this episode, I'm diving into all 16 inputs across the four pillars, busting some myths from the self-help world that keep people stuck, and sharing the personal experiences (including finishing my PhD!) that sparked a renewed vision for this work. Oh, and I'm officially Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes now. 🎓 🔗 Take the free PIES assessment to see your inputs, outputs, and where your biggest area for growth is: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/pies-assessment In this episode, I cover: The PIES method explained The 4 inputs for Physical attraction & influence The 4 inputs for Intellectual attraction & influence The 4 inputs for Emotional attraction & influence The 4 inputs for Spiritual attraction & influence How to see where you're at risk for burnout The free PIES assessment This is the first episode of The Way You Show Up — a podcast and YouTube series all about the science of attraction and influence, and how focusing on these four pillars changes the way you show up at work, at home, in your marriage, in your parenting, and beyond. New episodes every week. Subscribe so you don't miss one! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The 4 Part Method That Changes The Way You Show Up
• What I've Been Working On...Feb 17, 2026 · 6 minA year ago, I stopped. I stopped doing one of the things I loved the most. I stopped because I was overwhelmed. I stopped because I was chronically burnt out. I stopped because I started doubting my purpose. It felt like a wise and mature decision at the time. Maybe it was But what I slowly began to realize was that I stopped doing the thing that, when it came to my work, was one of the most life-giving. Now, it's back. But better. For ten years, I’ve loved talking about the PIES because it changed my life. I was depressed. Stuck. Anxious. Overworked. My marriage was in shambles. I had no friends. I felt lost. The PIES method allowed me to focus on becoming my best physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually and focusing on what I could control. Me. And it changed my focus. It changed my energy. It changed me. And over the past year, as I've finished my PhD (freaking finally!) I've realized that the PIES is even more powerful than I originally thought. We're going to be talking about confidence, clarity, influence, and how what you do impacts the way you show up to those around you... ...and we're going to be doing it together with a new podcast, new title, and new content. Same PIES. Revamped. Reimagined. Redefined. Can't wait to go along this journey with you. Stay strong, Dr. Kimberly I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay What I've Been Working On...
• The Truth About TraumaFeb 18, 2025 · 52 minMeredith Ball, a licensed professional counselor dedicated to healing trauma, joins us to unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives. In this episode, Meredith opens up about her own journey and sheds light on how trauma affects the brain, the underestimated power of neuroplasticity, and the generational gaps in acknowledging these wounds. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The Truth About Trauma
• Unlocking Learning Strategies and Decision-MakingFeb 11, 2025 · 41 minWant to unlock your potential? Discover how to study smarter and retain more information with expert insights from Dr. Dan Willingham! Tune in now and transform your learning experience! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Unlocking Learning Strategies and Decision-Making
• Understanding The Difference Between Male And Female EmotionsFeb 4, 2025 · 47 minIs there actually a difference in the way men and women process emotions? Find out on today’s episode! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Understanding The Difference Between Male And Female Emotions
• 10 Things You Can Do To Feel More AttractiveJan 28, 2025 · 33 minFeeling unattractive? You're not alone! Discover 10 uplifting strategies to reclaim your self-worth and feel fabulous again! Tune in to our latest episode and transform your outlook! What's your go-to feel-good strategy? I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay 10 Things You Can Do To Feel More Attractive
• The 5 Step Method To Improving Your CommunicationJan 21, 2025 · 53 minDiscover the 5 step method we use to improve communication. Not only does this help with communication between us as spouses, but it can also be used in conversations with friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in between! Let’s dive in to this week’s episode! Links to SMART Communication Episode: Episode 1 Episode 2 I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The 5 Step Method To Improving Your Communication
• The Truth Behind Why You’re Not Reaching Your GoalsJan 14, 2025 · 42 minUnderstanding how to set meaningful goals can transform your self-esteem and overall happiness. This episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, exploring self-concordant goals that resonate with individual desires over societal expectations. • Discussing personal motivations behind goals • Highlighting the concept of self-concordance • Distinguishing between intrinsic and extrinsic motivations • Introducing the PIES framework for holistic goal-setting • Importance of setting achievable and stretch goals • Exploring the need for self-compassion in goal pursuit • Opening the door for future personal growth and achievement Let’s dive in! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The Truth Behind Why You’re Not Reaching Your Goals
• The All or Nothing Mindset is Ruining Your Diet - How To Actually Achieve Your Diet GoalsJan 7, 2025 · 1 hr 5 minIn this episode, we're diving deep into the truth about weight loss and fat loss , and sharing some of the most important lessons we've learned on our journey. We're going to be talking about our experiences with different diets, including whole 30, and how we've discovered the key to making sustainable changes that actually work. We'll also be sharing our personal journey and the changes that we've made to improve our overall health and fitness. Plus, we'll give some tips on how to stay consistent with your goals and not get discouraged when the scale doesn't show the results you expect. If you're looking to finally lose weight and keep it off, this video is for you! Be sure to like this video, subscribe for more content, and let us know in the comments what your goals are for the new year. Let's do this together! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The All or Nothing Mindset is Ruining Your Diet - How To Actually Achieve Your Diet Goals
• How To Set AND Achieve Your Goals For 2025Dec 31, 2024 · 42 minOne of my favorite weeks of the year every year is the week between Christmas and New Years. I sit down and reflect on the last year and plan out my goals and dreams for the new year. In this episode, I’ll guide you through how to set attainable goals. Let’s go into the new year striving to be the best versions of ourselves… Let’s dive in! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay How To Set AND Achieve Your Goals For 2025
• The 4 Part Framework To Stand For Your MarriageDec 17, 2024 · 44 minExperiencing the highs and lows of marriage led me to a profound realization: attraction isn't just about the physical—it's a holistic process encompassing the Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual aspects. Last week I was able to share with our Marriage Helper audience the PIES framework, designed to rejuvenate marital bonds by focusing on self-improvement. Through personal stories, I illustrate how embracing this multi-faceted approach can reignite passion and enhance well-being, helping you tackle insecurities and societal pressures surrounding attraction. Expect to uncover the hidden layers of intellectual and emotional attraction that keep relationships thriving. Drawing from personal experiences with my husband, I emphasize the importance of engaging conversations and shared interests that spark intellectual attraction. Equally vital is fostering emotional attraction—creating environments that nurture positive emotions. I discuss practices like self-forgiveness and positive self-talk as cornerstones for personal growth and deeper connections with your partner, offering practical insights for enriching your marriage. As we wrap up, the focus shifts to spiritual growth and transformation, urging you to embrace activities like journaling and volunteering that elevate your spiritual attraction and self-esteem. Personal transformation is not only key to saving a marriage but also to personal fulfillment. With the new year on the horizon, it's the perfect time to reflect and set actionable goals for a brighter future. I invite you to connect with our team for guidance on this transformative journey, so you can gift yourself the opportunity for growth and change. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The 4 Part Framework To Stand For Your Marriage
• Unpacking the Real Costs of Social Media with Chris MartinDec 10, 2024 · 55 minWhat if the digital world was costing us more than we realized? In this episode, we sit down with Chris Martin, an insightful author who has navigated the depths of social media’s real costs. Chris shares his journey of writing a thought-provoking book during the pandemic, drawing from his rich experiences in social media roles at Lifeway and Moody Publishers. Together, we explore how his upbringing in a tech-savvy household shaped his perspectives, and what compelled him to question the societal impact of social media so deeply. Our conversation takes a fascinating turn as we ponder how media critic Neil Postman might critique today's digital landscape, especially from a Christian viewpoint. We chart the evolution of the social internet, reminiscing about AOL trial disks and MySpace days, while unpacking how modern platforms have shifted societal norms toward valuing affirmation over truth. The discussion extends to the ethical implications of social media's addictive designs and their effects on mental health, illustrating a nuanced portrayal of our digital lives. As we peer into the future, the concept of the metaverse emerges, raising questions about the balance between virtual and authentic human connections. Chris and I discuss the potential for technology to both enhance and hinder intimacy, while considering society's possible rejection of tools that fail to deliver on meaningful interactions. Through reflections on Bo Burnham's creative critiques and personal anecdotes, we encourage listeners to prioritize offline experiences and nurture real-life relationships. Join us on Twitter as we continue this important dialogue and explore the themes of Chris Martin's book, "Terms of Service: The Real Cost of Social Media." I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Unpacking the Real Costs of Social Media with Chris Martin
• How To Become More Attractive INTELLECTUALLYDec 3, 2024 · 40 minThis episode was recorded in 2022. Kimberly is joined by a very special guest, her husband, Rob! This was the second time Rob joined the podcast so if you missed the first episode, make sure you go back and listen to the episode about Introverts vs. Extroverts . In this episode, they both discuss what intellectually attracted them to each other when they first met. You will hear Rob and Kimberly answer questions from the listeners about working on intellectual attraction with your spouse when you have no interest in the same hobbies or likes. This is a fun episode with lots of laughs and great perspectives from both spouses on being more intellectually attractive. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay How To Become More Attractive INTELLECTUALLY
• Navigating Mental Health and Technology for the Next Generation with Zach RauschNov 26, 2024 · 57 minDiscover the hidden costs of our digital age as I sit down with Zach Rausch, the lead researcher behind "The Anxious Generation." Zach opens up about his personal journey with mental health challenges and how it fueled his passion to explore the complex relationship between technology and well-being. This episode peels back the layers on the disturbing rise in loneliness, anxiety, and depression among young people, especially adolescent girls, as they grapple with the very tools meant to connect them. We tackle the sobering reality of international trends affecting mental health and stress the urgency of addressing these issues for the sake of future generations. Zach Rausch is Associate Research Scientist at NYU-Stern School of Business, lead researcher to Social Psychologist Jonathan Haidt and the #1 New York Times best seller, The Anxious Generation . Zach previously worked at the Center for Humane Technology and as Communications Manager at Heterodox Academy . He earned a Bachelor of Arts in sociology and religious studies and a Master of Science in psychological science from SUNY New Paltz. Zach previously studied Buddhism in Bodh Gaya, India, worked in Wilderness Therapy, and was a direct care worker in two psychiatric group homes. Zach’s research and writing have been featured internationally, in outlets such T he New York Times , The Atlantic , The Boston Globe , The Wall Street Journal , and more. Twitter: https://twitter.com/ZachMRausch Newsletter: After Babel Website: https://zach-rausch.com/ Anxious Generation: https://anxiousgeneration.com I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes <PlayPlay Navigating Mental Health and Technology for the Next Generation with Zach Rausch
• The Surprising Connection Between Creativity and IntelligenceNov 19, 2024 · 38 minIn this episode we talk with Dr. Rex Jung about the differences in creativity and intelligence and how you can work your brain to be more creative! Discover how engaging in creative activities might be the key to alleviating stress and enhancing personal growth. We explore the stages of creative cognition, demonstrating how a playful mind state can lead to innovation and a sense of flow. We'll discuss the empowering impact of creativity on mental health, relationships, and personal development. From spontaneous moments of inspiration while jogging to the communal joys of dance, these experiences not only enrich our lives but also foster deeper connections and a truer understanding of ourselves. Today's Guest: Dr. Rex Jung Rex Jung is an adjunct professor of psychology at the University of New Mexico, a research scientist at the Mind Research Network, and a practicing clinical neuropsychologist in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He studies both brain disease and what the brain does well—a field of research known as "positive neuroscience." His research is designed to relate behavioral measures, including intelligence, personality, and creativity, to brain function and structure in healthy, neurological, and psychiatric subjects. He has published research articles across a wide range of disciplines, including traumatic brain injury, lupus, schizophrenia, intelligence, and creativity. Rex was the President (2019-2021) of the International Society for Intelligence Research (ISIR). Visit Dr. Jung's website here: https://www.rexjung.com/ I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The Surprising Connection Between Creativity and Intelligence
• The Secret To Mindset TransformationNov 12, 2024 · 59 minDiscover the power of mindset transformation in this inspiring interview with Dr. Josh Axe. After facing a life-altering health crisis, Dr. Axe shares how changing his mindset played a critical role in his recovery and personal growth. From practical strategies like the A, B, C, D, E method for overcoming limiting beliefs to the importance of faith, hope, and gratitude, this conversation is packed with actionable insights to help you transform your life. Learn how your thoughts impact your health, relationships, and overall well-being, and why spiritual and emotional health are just as vital as physical health. Whether you’re looking to overcome obstacles, heal from past wounds, or achieve your goals, this episode will show you how to shift your mindset and create a vision for a better future. 📚 Check out Dr. Axe’s new book, Think This, Not That : [ https://bit.ly/40NpcQx ] 🎧 Listen to more on the Dr. Josh Axe Show: [ https://bit.ly/40CSbq0 ] If you’re ready to take control of your thoughts and unlock the best version of yourself, this episode is a must-listen I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The Secret To Mindset Transformation
• The True Measure of SuccessNov 5, 2024 · 23 minPlenty of research talks about how a parent's interaction with their child will affect that child's future. It's called attachment theory, which boils down to the consistency and the quality of a parent's interaction with their child. The research shows there are four primary outcomes in attachment theory, but the only positive one is secure attachment. Secure attachment means that the child will believe that mom and dad will always be there when they need them. There are seven characteristics of strong families, the most important being quantity of time, not quality. The question is, what is most important to you? Financial stability is vital for any family, but is there a way to balance your work and family life? I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay The True Measure of Success
• How and Why You Should Do Your Own ResearchOct 29, 2024 · 23 minWhat if you could unlock the secrets to reading scholarly research articles as easily as a captivating novel? This episode promises just that, equipping you with the skills to discern credible academic work from unreliable sources. Discover how to utilize tools like Google Scholar to access the wealth of knowledge hidden within peer-reviewed studies without spending a dime. We break down the anatomy of research articles, shedding light on how to efficiently navigate sections like the abstract, methods, and results, ensuring you're armed with the critical thinking necessary to interpret scientific evidence accurately. Embark on a journey through the complex world of research methodologies, where we unravel the distinctions between qualitative and quantitative studies. Gain insight into why understanding the methods section is vital for grasping the validity of a study’s findings. With practical examples, we illustrate how to interpret graphical data and comprehend the importance of statistical terms like "significant difference." By connecting findings back to their hypotheses, we underscore the transformative power of effective discussions and conclusions in contributing to scientific fields and identifying areas ripe for future exploration. Elevate your research article reading game by setting clear objectives and appreciating the nuances of academic inquiry. We share strategies for sifting through multiple articles to develop a well-rounded perspective, urging you to challenge sensational headlines and seek out original research for a more accurate understanding of complex topics. With stories from dissertation experiences, this episode aims to inspire a lifelong love of learning, encouraging you to question, verify, and explore the depths of scholarly discovery. Stay curious and empowered on this enlightening research journey. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tikPlayPlay How and Why You Should Do Your Own Research
• The Secret to LIVING Your FAITH Out LoudOct 22, 2024 · 41 minThis episode was recorded in 2022 What happens when a teenage mother becomes a Christian influencer, inspiring women worldwide? Join us for a compelling conversation with Yasmine Williams-Woods as she shares her remarkable journey from becoming a mother at 14 in a small Alabama town to becoming a beacon of hope through faith and biblical truths. Yasmine's story is a testament to the power of resilience and unwavering love, as she opens up about her upbringing by her single mother and her unexpected path into the digital world. Her experiences illuminate the challenges of balancing faith with marriage and motherhood, offering practical insights on integrating spirituality into everyday life. Explore the intricate dance of building relationships with those who hold different beliefs while maintaining a strong faith identity. Yasmine delves into the art of embodying faith through actions, highlighting the power of spiritual attraction over mere words. She shares her thoughts on humility and submission to God, and how these elements can attract others to faith in subtle, yet profound ways. Through honest reflections, Yasmine encourages openness and genuine connection, even when past religious experiences may have left wounds. As we wrap up, Yasmine invites us into her personal journey of faith growth, sharing her love for impactful faith-based literature and projects aimed at empowering mothers. Her recommendations, including titles by Mike Todd and Priscilla Shirer, along with her passion for biblical books like 1 and 2 Samuel, offer a roadmap for those seeking spiritual enrichment. Yasmine's journey is a call to courageously live out love in our relationships, urging listeners to reflect on their own path and commitment to God's purpose. Whether through her devotional projects or her presence on social media, Yasmine exemplifies living a life of faith in today's world. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: <a href='httPlayPlay The Secret to LIVING Your FAITH Out Loud
• How Ignoring Time Together Can Destroy Your MarriageOct 15, 2024 · 17 minCould the secret to a thriving marriage lie in the simple act of intentionally spending time together? Join me and my husband, Rob, as we recount our own experiences of navigating the demanding world of military life while keeping our relationship a top priority. We share candid stories and insights, emphasizing the importance of consciously setting aside time for each other amidst the chaos of family and work commitments. Discover how neglecting these moments can lead to a loss of intimacy and even jeopardize family dynamics, offering a cautionary tale to those who may be caught up in the whirlwind of everyday life. In this episode, we uncover simple yet powerful techniques for rekindling intimacy and passion through spending time with your partner. From morning coffee chats to 15-minute daily check-ins, these seemingly small gestures can make all the difference. We also discuss the balance between nurturing your relationship and spending time as a family, highlighting the need to keep these interactions separate and distinct. The message is clear: be proactive, take ownership, and prioritize these moments to ensure your marriage not only survives but thrives in the face of life's pressures. Whether you're juggling hectic schedules or just looking to strengthen your bond, tune in for practical advice and inspiration to enrich your relationship. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay How Ignoring Time Together Can Destroy Your Marriage
• Are You PROTEIN Deficient Without Even Knowing It?Oct 8, 2024 · 37 minDiscover how much protein you truly need for optimal health and why animal protein is often heralded as the go-to source for essential amino acids. We'll tackle the everyday obstacles of meeting protein requirements, particularly when dining out, and share a compelling study that pits high-protein snacks against their high-fat counterparts in the battle of satiety. Ready to transform your body composition and boost your weight loss efforts? You'll find the answers in our exploration of protein's powerful impact on fat loss and muscle development. We dissect fascinating research that highlights the benefits of a protein-rich diet, showcasing how it not only helps shed fat but also supports lean body mass retention in older adults. Practical tips on daily protein intake will guide you in achieving a higher resting metabolic rate and a more effective path to reaching your fitness goals. Gain insights into the strategic timing and tracking of protein intake. Our discussion covers the pros and cons of varying sources like soy and meat, with a focus on the practicality of spreading protein consumption throughout the day to enhance muscle protein synthesis. We emphasize the significance of regular strength training and the mindful monitoring of dietary habits, offering a tried-and-true approach to improving your nutrition. Whether you're a fitness enthusiast or just getting started, this episode provides the tools you need to optimize your diet and fuel your health journey. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Are You PROTEIN Deficient Without Even Knowing It?
• Navigating Intimacy And Passion For A More Fulfilling MarriageOct 4, 2024 · 8 minEver wondered why some relationships thrive in emotional closeness while others struggle to maintain even a semblance of connection? Discover the intricate dynamics of the "Triangulation of Love," where intimacy, passion, and commitment play pivotal roles. Through personal stories, we'll unravel the complexities of intimacy and how disparities between partners can lead to misunderstandings and long-term impacts, especially when one feels criticized or rejected early on. We tackle how these differences manifest across various relationships—be it romantic, familial, or platonic—and explore the underlying reasons for these gaps. Join us for practical advice and heartfelt anecdotes aimed at nurturing intimacy and ensuring it's a reciprocal journey. We highlight the significance of recognizing when your partner might be holding back and how to gently open lines of communication. By sharing relatable scenarios, from sports rivalries to drink preferences, we encourage listeners to reflect on their own relationships and embrace open dialogue. Tune in to gain fresh perspectives on fostering deeper connections and cultivating a safe environment for emotional vulnerability. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Navigating Intimacy And Passion For A More Fulfilling Marriage
• Accepting Each Other Changed Our Marriage COMPLETELYOct 1, 2024 · 46 minHave you ever felt superior to your partner or viewed them through a critical lens because of their struggles? This episode could reshape your perspective. Today, I'm joined by my wonderful husband, Rob! We begin by unpacking the profound importance of true acceptance in marriages, sharing a poignant story of a friend's failing marriage to illustrate the corrosive effects of seeing a partner as "sick" or lesser. Through this narrative, we emphasize the necessity of meeting your spouse where they are and fostering a relationship built on equality and mutual respect. Next, we delve into the insidious nature of contempt and how it can dismantle the foundation of any relationship. We'll walk you through real-life scenarios where partners viewed each other as fundamentally flawed, leading to the erosion of respect and emotional distancing. By discussing the impacts of perceived intelligence and educational disparities, we reveal how overcoming these superiority complexes can pave the way for personal growth and healthier future relationships. Finally, we explore the bridge to full acceptance, drawing on insights from experts like Dr. Joe Beam and Dr. John Gottman. From navigating high-stress environments to rebuilding trust after deceit, we share our personal journey and highlight the gradual yet essential process of achieving mutual acceptance. We'll also touch on the critical role of intimacy in relationships, using the Triangulation of Love model to dissect how intimacy, commitment, and passion interconnect. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, we offer a roadmap to fostering a strong, enduring marriage. Join us as we share our experiences and insights to help you navigate the complexities of acceptance in your relationships. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Accepting Each Other Changed Our Marriage COMPLETELY
• Is Contempt Killing Your Marriage?Sep 27, 2024 · 8 minThe full episode releases on October 1st! Does contempt silently poison your relationship? Discover how a sense of superiority and lack of respect can erode intimacy and trust in marriages. My husband, Rob, and I share powerful stories of couples who faced these challenges and transformed their relationships through acceptance and understanding. Through real-life examples, including our own early struggles with acceptance, we reveal how recognizing and embracing your partner's flaws can pave the way to a healthier, more loving connection. Join us for a compelling discussion on the importance of seeing your spouse as an equally flawed human and the profound impact this perspective shift can have. From dealing with mental health issues to learning to cherish each other's differences, we offer valuable insights and personal anecdotes that highlight the importance of acceptance in maintaining a strong, compassionate relationship. Tune in to learn how to build a more genuine connection with your partner and heal the wounds that contempt may have caused. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Is Contempt Killing Your Marriage?
• Marriage Therapist Reveals How To Have More Fulfilling SexSep 24, 2024 · 39 minThis episode was recorded in 2022. Unlock the secrets to a more fulfilling marriage with the insights of Dr. Corey Allan, a marriage and family therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of "Naked Marriage: Uncovering Who You Are and Who You Can Be Together." Dr. Allan shares compelling research on the impact of religiosity on marital and sexual satisfaction, revealing how higher levels of religious dogma correlate with lower sexual satisfaction. Learn why open conversations about sex—even before tying the knot—are vital for overcoming shame and guilt from upbringings, and how these dialogues can pave the way for stronger relationships. Ever wondered why desire differences create friction in marriages? This episode sheds light on this often-taboo topic. Dr. Allan and I dig deep into how communication issues in relationships frequently extend to the bedroom, affecting both high and low desire partners. We challenge the stigma around lower desire and offer actionable strategies to better understand and respond to each other's needs. Discover how foreplay and connection can go beyond physical touch, and how reevaluating the quality of sexual experiences can help mitigate feelings of rejection and frustration. Looking to reignite the spark in your relationship? Dr. Allan offers practical advice on rebuilding intimacy and connection through honesty, emotional regulation, and leadership. We discuss a real-life story about a couple struggling with financial transparency and emphasize the importance of self-regulation in fostering trust. Learn how introducing novelty and spontaneity can enhance sexual intimacy and why staying present and attuned to your partner can lead to more fulfilling experiences. Don't miss the exploration of personal growth within marriage, as Dr. Allan shares insights from his book and podcast, "Sexy Marriage Radio," and highlights resources available through his online practice. Dr. Allan's site - https://smrnation.com/ Naked Marriage book - https://amzn.to/3G9mpVm Subscribe to the Sexy Marriage Radio podcast: https://smrnation.com/subscribe/ I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exPlayPlay Marriage Therapist Reveals How To Have More Fulfilling Sex
• Does Your Menstrual Cycle Affect How You Work Out?Sep 20, 2024 · 16 minCan your menstrual cycle make or break your strength training progress? Today, we unlock the truth behind cycle-synced workouts and auto-regulation using the Rating of Perceived Exertion (RPE) scale. By examining how sleep, nutrition, and lifestyle intertwine with hormonal changes, we guide you on crafting a personalized fitness approach that navigates the highs and lows of your cycle. You’ll gain actionable insights on tracking your phases and adapting your workouts to maximize effectiveness and support your physical and emotional states. We also bust myths around exercise during perimenopause and post-menopause. Discover why high-intensity and strength training are non-negotiable for combating muscle and bone loss during these life stages. We delve into strategies for balancing high-intensity workouts with recovery to stay active and healthy. By acknowledging the unique experiences of menopausal women, we present a roadmap for maintaining fitness and well-being through tailored exercise routines. Tune in for a comprehensive discussion that empowers you to embrace your body's needs at every stage of life. Today's Guest: Dr. Alyssa Olenick Dr. Alyssa Olenick holds a Ph.D. in Exercise Physiology is a certified sports nutritionist and Crossfit Level 2 Trainer. Alyssa completed her doctoral training in exercise and human metabolism, sex differences and menstrual cycle physiology. She is currently a postdoctoral research fellow researching the areas of menopause and metabolism. As a coach she specializes in the areas endurance, strength and hybrid training. She runs her online business ‘Doc Lyss Fitness’ and is a strength athlete, ultra-marathon runner, and all-around fitness lover who is passionate about educating people on science-based fitness to get them into the gyms and on the roads/trails — or often, doing both at the same time! You can learn more about Dr. Alyssa Olenick and her programs at www.doclyssfitness.com I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybPlayPlay Does Your Menstrual Cycle Affect How You Work Out?
• Marriage Expert Reveals What Leads To Relationship FailureSep 17, 2024 · 41 minWhat drives relationships to their breaking point? In this episode, we uncover the intricate dynamics that influence the success and failure of romantic and personal connections. Discover what a 2017 study revealed about environmental stressors, trust issues, and personal challenges like depression. These critical predictors of relationship dissolution provide a comprehensive lens through which we can understand the complexities of human connections. I bring to light the common reasons couples grow apart, such as communication breakdowns and infidelity, and explore how these issues can severely affect mental health post-breakup. You'll also learn about the lasting impact of parental divorce on future relational trust and how fostering positive relationship experiences can mitigate anxiety and avoidance behaviors. Finally, we turn our focus to the building blocks of strong, enduring marriages. Mutual respect, compromise, and communication are essential, but how do preconceived notions about gender roles play into this? Hear real-life stories that illustrate the power of forgiveness and sensitivity in creating loving and loyal partnerships. We also emphasize the importance of commitment and respect, discussing how a strong marital foundation helps couples navigate life's challenges together. Join us as we offer valuable insights and practical advice for nurturing healthy, long-lasting relationships. Link to our research: https://bit.ly/3B50K26 Link to the Forbes article: ⏰ Time Stamps ⏰ 0:00 - Predictors of Relationship Dissolution 2:46 - Contextual and Relationship-Level Predictors 5:24 - Personal Experiences and Marriage Helper’s Teachings 7:22 - Divorce Statistics and Reasons for Divorce 9:28 - Cohabitation and Relationship Duration 12:46 - Gender Differences in Perception of Relationship Problems 15:30 - Impact of Past Experiences on Current Relationships 23:10 - Characteristics of Loving and Loyal Marriages 33:50 - Traditional and Non-Traditional Marriages 34:13 - Protective Factors of Marital Stability 36:27 - Global Perspectives on Marital Stability 37:37 - Key Takeaways and Final Thoughts I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. <brPlayPlay Marriage Expert Reveals What Leads To Relationship Failure
• Top Fitness Expert Reveals Best Workout Techniques for WomenSep 10, 2024 · 1 hr 11 minGet ready to transform your fitness journey with insights from Dr. Alyssa Olenick, a certified sports nutritionist and exercise physiologist. Have you ever wondered how to fine-tune your workouts for maximum efficiency? In this episode, you'll uncover the secrets of zone two training, strength training, and the nuances of fasting as it relates to exercise. Dr. Olenick’s extensive research on human metabolism, especially concerning sex differences and menstrual cycle physiology, will shed light on optimizing fitness routines for both men and women. Dr. Olenick takes us on an exploration of cardiovascular fitness and fat-burning thresholds, explaining how training zones can enhance mitochondrial efficiency and cardiovascular health. You'll also learn practical ways to incorporate zone two training into your routine without breaking the bank on fancy equipment. We discuss the 80-20 rule in endurance training and how to balance high-intensity workouts with lower-intensity sessions to achieve optimal results tailored to your fitness level. We dive into the complexities of balancing extreme endurance training with strength training, especially if you're gearing up for an ultra marathon. Dr. Olenick shares essential tips for women on navigating training around menstrual cycles and menopause, debunking myths and emphasizing personalized approaches. Finally, we dissect the benefits and potential pitfalls of CrossFit, and discuss the intricate relationship between nutrition and fasting for women athletes. This episode is packed with expert advice that promises to elevate your fitness game. Zones Calculator Zones Mini-Guide I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimbPlayPlay Top Fitness Expert Reveals Best Workout Techniques for Women
• Top Fitness Expert Reveals Zone 2 Training SecretsSep 6, 2024 · 12 minFull Episode Releases September 10th! Ever wondered why Zone 2 training is the secret weapon for boosting mitochondrial health and not just another buzzword in fitness? Join us as we unlock the science behind exercise intensities and navigate through the five distinct training zones. You'll discover where Zone 2 fits in—just below the first lactate threshold—keeping fat oxidation high and preventing lactate buildup. We break down how heart rate can be used as an indirect measure of these zones and emphasize the importance of understanding individual physiological differences. We also delve into how your fitness level dictates when lactate begins to accumulate, influencing the effectiveness of your workouts. Maximizing your Zone 2 training can drastically enhance mitochondrial efficiency and build essential physiological systems. We'll reveal why lower-intensity exercise harnesses fat for energy, unlike high-intensity workouts that shift towards carbohydrates. Understand the crossover concept, where your body transitions from burning fat to carbohydrates, and get insights into sex differences in exercise. Premenopausal women, in particular, may have an edge in fat oxidation during sub-maximal exercise. We also explore the mitochondrial capacity in female training, comparing moderately trained females to their male counterparts, and discuss why training status and response are crucial for metabolic health. Don't miss out on this comprehensive guide to mastering Zone 2 training and optimizing your fitness journey. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Top Fitness Expert Reveals Zone 2 Training Secrets
• STOP Letting Burnout Control Your LifeSep 3, 2024 · 1 hr 4 minHave you ever felt so exhausted by your job that even weekends don’t seem to recharge you? Join us as we unravel the complexities of burnout, a global crisis impacting two-thirds of workers, with insights grounded in both personal experiences and scientific studies. Discover how burnout isn’t just confined to the workplace but can also arise from academic pressures and volunteer roles. Explore the pivotal role of cortisol, the stress hormone, in this phenomenon. We dig into how cortisol's balance—or lack thereof—affects our physical and mental health. Drawing parallels with athletic training, we introduce the PIES model to categorize the effects of burnout and stress, emphasizing the necessity of early recognition and intervention. You'll hear about our personal anecdotes, offering a relatable perspective on the toll of chronic stress and the critical need for effective management strategies, including mindfulness and exercise. Arm yourself with actionable strategies to combat burnout, from progressive muscle relaxation techniques to the benefits of spiritual practices. Learn about disconcerting statistics from a 2024 study on US physicians’ vacation habits, underscoring the urgent need for adequate rest. Finally, we present seven practical methods to alleviate burnout and encourage you to commit to at least one of these strategies for a healthier, more balanced life. Prioritize your well-being with these expert tips and personal stories that bring our discussion to life. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay STOP Letting Burnout Control Your Life
• I'm EXHAUSTED! What You Need to Know About Burn OutAug 30, 2024 · 10 minFull episode available September 3rd! Could understanding the role of cortisol be the key to preventing burnout? Join us as we unpack the intricate relationship between this crucial hormone and burnout, guided by the World Health Organization's definition of the condition. We promise you'll gain insights into the three dimensions of burnout: energy depletion, increased mental distance or negativity towards one's job, and reduced professional efficacy. We discuss how burnout extends beyond traditional workplaces, affecting high-demand roles in academia and volunteer positions. Delve into the science of cortisol's role in stress response, metabolism, inflammation, blood sugar regulation, and the sleep-wake cycle, and explore the ongoing debate over whether burnout is linked to high or low cortisol levels. In this episode, we also share personal stories and reflections about recognizing and addressing burnout. Hear firsthand about the overwhelming challenge of returning to work after a four-month sabbatical. The physical and emotional signs of burnout, such as the intense fatigue from back-to-back meetings and the crushing weight of expectations, are highlighted to emphasize the importance of listening to your body and setting boundaries. Whether you're navigating a high-demand job or managing a packed schedule, these insights and the role of cortisol will equip you with the knowledge to maintain your well-being and professional efficacy. Tune in to understand better the physiological underpinnings of burnout and its implications for your overall health. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay I'm EXHAUSTED! What You Need to Know About Burn Out
• The 1 Problem Most Marriages FaceAug 27, 2024 · 56 minCan our past really dictate the health of our current relationships? Join us in this enlightening episode where we uncover the profound influence of unresolved emotions on our interactions today. With Dr. Chip Dodd, an esteemed expert in emotional and spiritual counseling, we explore how understanding and managing our feelings can be the key to personal and relational well-being. Dr. Dodd shares his pioneering spiritual root system philosophy, blending ancient wisdom with modern neuroscience to explain how our hearts govern our experiences and relationships. Through heartfelt stories and practical advice, we dive deep into emotional regulation, the importance of processing feelings, and the power of resonance and revision in building trust. From navigating the complexities of marriage to understanding the four essential questions that help manage emotions, we emphasize the necessity of addressing emotional history to cultivate healthier connections. Dr. Dodd's insights are complemented by relatable anecdotes, including the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, revealing the intricate dynamics of emotional responsibility and empathy. In our journey towards emotional healing, we highlight the shared humanity that binds us all, emphasizing the resilience of the human heart. Discover how identifying and expressing emotions truthfully can foster genuine connections and mutual understanding. We also discuss valuable resources such as 12-step groups for emotional support, underscoring the importance of finding trustworthy individuals to share vulnerabilities with. This episode offers a transformative perspective on emotional well-being, encouraging listeners to embrace their feelings for a more connected and compassionate life. Today's Guest: Dr. Chip Dodd The Voice of the Heart Book Chip Dodd's Podcasts The Boy & The Ogre: Finding Freedom From Codependency I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We'PlayPlay The 1 Problem Most Marriages Face
• The 5 Characteristics Of The HeartAug 23, 2024 · 4 minFull episode releases August 27th! What if your heart, not your mind, holds the key to living a fulfilled life? In this enlightening episode, we sit down with Dr. Chip Dodd, the esteemed author of "The Voice of the Heart," to explore the profound idea that our emotions and spiritual nature define our true selves. Dr. Dodd breaks down the concept of the spiritual root system, explaining how our feelings shape our needs, desires, longings, and hopes. This is not just a theoretical discussion—it's grounded in both biblical teachings and modern neuroscience, offering a transformative perspective on how we engage with our emotions. Dr. Dodd passionately discusses how recognizing and embracing our feelings can unlock deeper connections with ourselves, others, and even God. He shares how this understanding is foundational to various therapeutic practices aimed at nurturing our emotional and spiritual well-being. Whether you're familiar with Dr. Dodd's work or new to his insights, this thought-provoking conversation will challenge you to reconsider the role of the heart in your life, encouraging you to live more fully and authentically. Tune in for a journey that bridges ancient wisdom with contemporary science, offering timeless lessons for today's world. Today's Guest: Dr. Chip Dodd Dr. Chip Dodd has spent his entire career guiding thousands of professionals and their families through the struggles of their lives and into the lives they were created to have. In 1996, Dr. Dodd founded a treatment center in Nashville, Tennessee called The Center for Professional Excellence (CPE), and spent the next 22 years serving as its Executive Director. Since selling CPE in 2017, Dr. Dodd has worked in private practice doing consulting, mentoring, speaking, counseling, as well as writing. He began Chip Dodd Resources in 2019. In 1991, Dr. Dodd developed The Spiritual Root System (SRS). It is a simple and effective way of seeing how we are made, and integrating how we are made into the lives we desire. Dr. Dodd’s first book, The Voice of the Heart was published in 2001. This seminal work teaches the importance of feelings as tools and gifts that can assist us in living fully. This book continues to impact people’s lives all over the world. All of Dr. Dodd’s books speak to our desire to live fully, love deeply, and lead well. Dr. Dodd married his high school sweetheart in 1983. They have two grown sons and two precious daughters-in-law. They currently live in Middle Tennessee. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of tPlayPlay The 5 Characteristics Of The Heart
• I Was Away From Work For 4 Months... Here's What I LearnedAug 20, 2024 · 52 minCan you imagine what transformation awaits you if you simply choose to slow down? In this episode, I invite you to journey with me through my four-month sabbatical, a time that began with resistance and ended with profound personal growth. Inspired by a conversation with Luke LeFevre, his words about the importance of slowing down initially felt daunting. However, embracing this leap of faith led me to reevaluate my life's pace and rediscover inner peace and clarity. March was a turning point when mental fog and indecision signaled the need for a break. Leaving work was a rollercoaster of exhilaration and fear, filled with worries about my company's fate without me. This sabbatical wasn't just a vacation—it was a complete lifestyle overhaul that shook my identity to the core. Through new routines, intense journaling, and much-needed rest, I faced the challenge of understanding my worth beyond professional success. The first three weeks were especially turbulent, but they laid the foundation for the clarity and peace that followed. The journey wasn't purely personal—it was deeply spiritual. I explored my life's mission and reconnected with my faith, particularly through the transformative power of Richard Stearns' book, "The Hole in Our Gospel." This spiritual quest led me to contemplate a career devoted to serving the needy, and I even considered a career change. Through prayer, stillness, and thoughtful decision-making, I found a renewed sense of purpose, especially in my work with Marriage Helper. Join me as I share how slowing down and seeking spiritual guidance can lead to life-changing clarity and fulfillment. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay I Was Away From Work For 4 Months... Here's What I Learned
• What To Do If You Can't SleepAug 16, 2024 · 8 minWhat if you could finally conquer sleepless nights and wake up feeling refreshed every morning? This video promises to arm you with practical, expert-backed strategies for falling asleep faster and staying asleep longer. We dive into the importance of getting out of bed if you can't sleep, and why engaging in calming activities like journaling or reading can be game-changers. We also touch on the pros and cons of watching TV or using your phone, offering tips on minimizing blue light exposure to maintain a healthy sleep cycle. Learn how to enhance your sleep hygiene throughout the day with actionable insights that range from morning sunlight exposure to daily exercise and stress management techniques. Discover why avoiding late-night work emails or emotionally charged conversations before bed can significantly improve your sleep quality. Whether you're struggling to fall asleep or waking up in the middle of the night, this episode is packed with valuable advice to help you create a more restful and restorative sleep environment. Join us as we share personal stories and expert tips on achieving the sleep you've always dreamed of. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay What To Do If You Can't Sleep
• Breaking Free from Negative Thinking, Unlocking Better Sleep, and Thriving in Male Dominated Spaces - AMAAug 13, 2024 · 43 minEver found yourself stuck in a cycle of negative self-talk? In this episode, I recount my journey of returning to CrossFit, shifting my mindset from competition to personal growth, and the profound impact it had on my self-esteem. By focusing on self-awareness and integrating positive affirmations, you too can break free from the constraints of negativity and celebrate your own progress. This episode provides actionable insights on fostering self-compassion and celebrating small victories, essential for enhancing performance in all aspects of life. Are you tired of waking up groggy and irritable? Learn the secrets to transforming your sleep routine with practical tips and personal anecdotes. In this episode we also share proven strategies such as avoiding screens before bed, creating a calming pre-sleep ritual, and optimizing your sleep environment. Plus, discover how a well-crafted morning routine can set you up for nighttime success, helping you wake up feeling refreshed and ready to tackle the day. Women navigating male-dominated spaces face unique challenges, and in this episode, we tackle these head-on. Hear about my experiences of exclusion and learn the importance of authenticity and leveraging unique strengths. We highlight the necessity of greater awareness among men and the power of supportive professional networks for women. Additionally, we explore the significance of understanding your deeper motivations to maintain long-term fitness goals, inspired by a compelling conversation with Mike Foster. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion that will leave you feeling empowered and equipped to handle whatever comes your way. ❓Click here to submit questions! https://forms.gle/Eh78j3qUVbiUEerP8 I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Breaking Free from Negative Thinking, Unlocking Better Sleep, and Thriving in Male Dominated Spaces - AMA
• Increase Intellectual Attraction by Improving Your MemoryAug 6, 2024 · 1 hr 2 minCurious about how stress might be silently sabotaging your memory? In today’s episode, we unravel the intricate web of memory mechanisms and share actionable techniques to boost your recall. We define memory in its various forms—working, short-term, and long-term—and use engaging examples like letter sequences and favorite bands to illustrate their unique functions. We promise you'll gain knowledge that can elevate both your personal and professional life. Next, we tackle the impact of stress and trauma on memory recall with some eye-opening statistics and studies. Did you know that women might remember more words than men under stress? We discuss how negative experiences can overshadow positive memories and stress the importance of sleep for memory retention. Drawing on compelling research, including a 2019 study on PTSD, we highlight how personalized memory cues can significantly enhance recall. Lastly, we shift our focus to practical strategies for memory improvement, emphasizing the importance of physical fitness and reward mechanisms. From repetition techniques to the cognitive prowess of elite athletes, we demonstrate how exercise and personalized strategies can make a remarkable difference. Tune in to learn how these insights can transform your memory performance and hear inspiring stories that showcase the incredible potential of these techniques. 🔬 Link to our research 🔬 https://bit.ly/3Ae7kD2 I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay Increase Intellectual Attraction by Improving Your Memory
• How Can I Overcome Grief After A Divorce?Jul 30, 2024 · 44 minDivorce can feel like the end of the world, shattering dreams and leaving you questioning your worth. But it doesn't have to be the final chapter. On It Starts with Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes and David Mathews, founder of Spark of Life, offer hope and healing for those navigating the devastating loss of divorce. In this powerful episode, David reveals why divorce is so hard to process, highlighting the unresolved resentments, regrets, and shattered dreams that keep individuals stuck. He emphasizes the importance of viewing divorce as a form of grief and shares practical tools for recovery, including forgiveness, gratitude, and taking small steps forward. Discover how to shift your focus from loss to what you still have, and learn how to live forward with hope and purpose after divorce. 🔗 https://sparkoflife.org I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up. 🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com 🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmesPlayPlay How Can I Overcome Grief After A Divorce?